Am I overreacting? Have you some advice to help my 4 years old daughter.(19 Posts)
My four years old daughter goes to nursery 9 am to 3:30 pm then to after school sessions 3:30 pm to 6 pm. My next door neighbour brought her in the morning and collected her in the evening this week while I recover nasty gastritis. However, this evening, he was informed my daughter has been complaining she was in pain when passing urine. He called me before leaving the school to tell me. I called our surgery straight away, but despite being promised a doctor will call back before 6:30 pm. No call was made, and I was already informed there is no appointment left for tomorrow. I carried a urinary test on a urine sample, and my daughter has a very nasty infection. She is in pain, and all I could do was to give her hot Himalayan salt bath, Neurofen, cranberry juice and vitamin C fruits (Strawberries, clementines), plenty water and taking her to the toilet every 30 minutes checking for blood in her urine since the urine test showed blood is present.
I am very upset with her school not calling me before 6 pm to inform me of my daughter's discomfort and pain.
I can understand why you are upset and disappointed, did your neighbour say how long it was since she had been complaining to nursery staff? It maybe that she only just told them so there really wasn't worth contacting you as she was going home soon anyhow? Still a courtesy call would have been nice! Urine infections can be unpleasant, hope your lo is feeling better soon x
@Char22thom The teaching assistant who told my neighbour worked from both venue and had been with my daughter since 9 am. She told my neighbour: 'She keeps complaining of pain every time she goes to the toilet'
So, we assume had been going for quite a while.
Assuming you are in the UK I would get her an ooh dr appt rather than spend time worrying about whether the nursery did the right thing .
Phone 111 they can get you an OOH appt tonight.
What are you going to do about your daughter?
I am doing everything that is recommended on the NHS wedsite: pain killers, loose clothes, plenty liquids, Vitamin C and cranberry juice. If the pain worsen then call a GP. My daughter is sleeping right now and has managed to wee 50 ml without pain before falling asleep, Which is more than the four drops she passed every 30 minutes with pain over the previous 3 hours.
Well, what can I say!
I did put the same message on two topic discussions: Nursery and Children Health.
The Nursery replies were by nursery workers on self-defence.
The Children Health replies were by individuals who sincerely care about children wellbeing. At no point was I judged. Contrary to the Nursery discussion!
There is no judgement here. Nursery told you she had complained about pain, which she may have also been feeling the night before. Now you need to ensure she's treated.
I'm sure if she had been crying, or complain about pain all day, nursery would have called you earlier.
She was seen by a doctor at 9:20 this morning. She has a nasty UTI as suspected and fever. Samples are being sent to the laboratory to identify the bacteria attacking her. There is no guaranty the antibiotics will work. If she worsen in the next 24-48 hours I will have to take her to the emergencies. Once the laboratory results are back we will know if the antibiotics need to be changed or not. She will need to be checked out in 3 weeks.
Sorry were the responses from nursery workers on a different site ? All I was pointing out ( not a nursery worker btw) was that if you thought your daughter was ill enough for them to ring you during the day then you should have sought medical help last night , and as she is now on ABs I stand by that response as the ABs could have been started 12 hours earlier . Hope she feels better soon .
Poor thing. Hope she feels better soon. I'm still not sure nursery is to blame for not sending her home though.
@Floralnomad I did seek medical assistance as soon as my neighbour called me from her school at 5:50 pm to tell me the staff said she had been complaining of pain EVERYTIME she passed urine. I called our surgery at 6:00 pm before she arrived home. I was told there were no more appointment left and will need to call back in the morning. I was told a GP would call me before 6:30 pm to give us some advice. The call back never happen. I called at 8 am, and she was seen at 9:20 am. I was assured I did the right thing by the consultant you saw us. However, should she had been seen day time her urine sample test results would have been available before the weekend. My daughter is on antibiotics, but since we won't know until Monday what bacteria is attacking her, there is not guaranty the antibiotics may work. Therefore she may worsen! And she may need to go to the emergencies. THAT IS THE REASON WHY I AM UPSET!
Gosh a parent angry that their child wasn't sent home
Make a change
Op, not sure where you get the idea that nursery workers don't care for children's wellbeing
They are hardly just doing it for the money are they?
I'm guessing that possibly your daughter didn't seem fat bothered or on too much pain to warrant being sent home
We tend to only send home in an emergency or we get complaints
It's horrible that your Dd is so ill and it must be very worrying for you. I do think you're over reacting though. You don't know what your daughter told the nursery staff or even if they were aware of how much pain she was in. My Dd was recently ill at school with a temperature of 40c but hadn't been sent home until late afternoon because she hasn't told anyone she felt sick. Children that age go downhill really fast she could easily have been fine at nursery but really ill at home.
You should have called the ooh GP last night then , as advised last night , and if you want to be angry at anybody then be angry at your GP for not calling you back . I'm sure had she been crying with pain the nursery would have called you, have you called them today to ask exactly what happened yesterday .
I think the school should have phoned you earlier but whether you took her today or yesterday it still takes time for bacterial cultures to grow so you simply won't know til Monday anyway - is she in a broad spectrum antibiotic?
Caline it takes 3 days for urine culture results regardless of which day the sample begins being processed because they have to grow the bacteria then identify it. In the meantime she will have been started on a broad spectrum antibiotic like Nitrofurantoin which hopefully will work quickly (it does in most cases). Hope she feels better soon.
Thank you, everyone.
May I clarify that I am not complaining about my daughter's nursery. It isn't their fault she has an infection. I am just concerned that they were aware she was complaining of pain every time she passed urine and never called me. but waited until her collection time to tell us. I have already discussed the issue with her school. I appreciate your advice.
If you had seen the reaction on the face of our GP when she did her own strip test you would know that I am not overreacting. Her nitrates level are over the roof.
As for not calling 111 last night: my daughter was fast asleep and slept all the way through to 8 am.
As for the previous night, my daughter she never complained of tummy aches.
She is on Trimethoprim 50mg/5ml oral suspension. 5ml spoon twice a day.
Once again thank you. Good night.
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