My DD (now aged 20 months) attends daycare nursery two days a week. She had been attending the same nursery since she was six months old. At first she seemed fine but when she moved to the new room we had a bit more of a bumpy ride. Obviously this meant getting used to new staff (although the nursery is small and they used to open up her original 'baby' room with the 'toddler' room she is now in for part of the day which meant she was already mixing with the toddlers and the staff in that room from the beginning). In the older room there were issues with biting which, thankfully, seem to be under control now. However, when my daughter arrives at nursery her demeanour quickly changes from being happy and bubbly to serious and miserable! Sometimes she cries but usually she just goes quiet and its clear from the body language that she is unhappy and looks like she goes into some sort of emotional shutdown. This morning I felt awful leaving her as she was clearly unhappy but doesn't protest as she knows it useless (she's been going for 14 months so knows I not going to pick her up and take her back home nomatter what!). In some ways it would be easier if she cried as I would see that as normal baby behaviour. However, the silence, look of misery and general body language (looking slightly frozen, looking down, fiddling with her fingers) makes me worry about what psychological damage this may be doing to her!
I am wondering if this is just normal though. Bearing in mind that she only usually attends for 2 days a week (although I do often book extra days here and there). Could it be that she's not attending often enough to accept it as part of her routine? She seems happy enough on the way to nursery and seems to know that's where she is going. Its just when she gets there her face drops when she sees the staff! Although the nursery is small they seem to rotate the staff a lot in the room she is in (possibly they work shifts) so there are quite a few different faces (as well as temporary cover staff) that she encounters.
I think one of the differences in the baby room she was in before was that there were fewer staff and mostly I handed her over to the same staff member who she was obviously happy to be with.
Does anyone think this is normal behaviour or should I be concerned and if so any suggestions how to deal with it? Thank you!
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DD still unhappy at nursery drop off after 14 months - is this normal?
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MGMidget · 24/11/2016 11:54
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