Room leader has her own child in the room

[Redstorm2807]

My dd is about to move rooms at nursery and the leader of the room she's moving into has their own child in that room. Quite a few members of staff have their own children at the nursery and if I'm honest I quite like that and it's understandable.

My concern is that a friend of a friend who's ds is a few months older has now left the nursery as she was concerned about the room leader paying too much attention to their own child. I don't know them well enough to ask for details but it is raising alarm bells.

Surely having their own child in the room is going to make it very difficult as the child is going to want their attention? What do we think?

I might ask the manager about it but aibu?

[henriettaonanaeroplane]

We have this situation and it is just fine. It was last year (nursery) and this year (reception) as teacher and child both moved up. DS wants to marry the teacher's daughter which is hilarious. Try not to worry unless it is actually becomes a problem.

[Wolfiefan]

Unless the needs of your child are not being met then I can't see an issue. Is this person your child's key worker?

[RiverTam]

One of DD's key workers moved room once her own DS started in that room, bummer for DD as she liked her key worker but it made sense. Clearly it was nursery policy, surprised that's not always the case.

[leccybill]

The owners of our nursery had their granddaughter in there in the same pre-school room as my DD. Guess who was Mary in the nativity

[badg3r]

I think it depends completely on the staff member and their DC. This happened at my DS's nursery and it was a complete non-issue.

[Dlah]

I work in a nursery and it's always been a policy of staff children not allowed at the nursery because of the distractions it can cause

However, the owner did bring her own children when younger and it was difficult because they got over familiar with the staff and didn't really listen/would wander to their mother when got old enough (very small nursery, in the room next to office)

I can see pro's and con's for both but really all you can do is try and see for yourself, any issues - raise them :)

[BackforGood]

It's not ideal, ut if, as you say, there are several staff with children in nursery then it ust be impossible to guarentee they are never in the same room.
As others have said, don't start off expecting it to be a problem , but just see how things pan out.

[Redstorm2807]

THanks everyone, as you suggest I'll wait and see how it works out.

[FineAsWeAre]

I wouldn't mention it unless you actually have any concerns about your child not receiving proper care. There will be other staff in the room anyway and even if she does favour her own, I doubt she'll ignore yours in the process. To be honest, the few times I have seen it, the person in question has made a particular effort not to show favouritism so they don't appear unprofessional.

[TiggyD]

I've been in nurseries where this happened. Sometimes a non-issue, sometimes very much an issue. I'm thinking of a worker who didn't let their children play on the big climbing frame telling their children it was too dangerous, while letting all the other children on it. Nursery rules have to apply to all children with no exception.

[MeredithShepherd]

I work in the same nursery my DS attends. We are not allowed to be in the same group. Luckily I work with theach babies and he is a toddler so I don't see him that often. Wouldn't want to be with him anyway, he plays up when I'm around!

[Giselaw]

Problem is, you have no way of knowing if she's spending too much time with her child so how are you meant to monitor the situation? I doubt other staff will want to complain about her.

We've had this in our nursery twice, but it was a non issue because I trusted the management to handle it and they did. In the first instance, the child was assigned a different key worker and purposely kept away from parent, in second instance, the staff member quit as the child was too clingy and didn't allow her to do her job properly. I suppose it says something about the quality of the nursery if the staff member preferred to quit than transfer her child elsewhere

[RedElephants]

As TiggyD said, our manager had her child in the same Pre School, it was a nightmare mostly as the child could do no wrong!!
And as Giselaw said "I doubt the other staff will want to complain about her" or her mother!! the woman didnt seem to be able to do any wrong in some of the higher managements eyes.
Thankfully both left when the child went to school.

[PlugUgly1980]

Mine go to a small nursery, out of maybe 12 staff, 6 of them have children or grandchildren in the nursery, and with only two rooms, some are in the same room as mum/grandma. Doesn't make any difference at all! I have no concerns and love the family atmosphere. If anything, they work hard so as not to show any favouritism etc.