I got my ds nursery newletter today and at the end of it, it says , I quote ' It has recently come to our attention that a small minority of parents are chosing to use illegal substances during their spare time'. Heuh? It then goes on about the obvious fact that it is unacceptable to pick up a child when drunk or on drugs etc... and that Nottingham City Social Services would be contacted...
Let's make one thing clear: I am not on drugs and I hate alcohol and of course, I agree that a child is at risk if picked up by someone who is not in a normal state, but the sentence I just quoted seems to be an accusation, is it legit to write this kind of stuff? And parents who do this should get their problems sorted. I am just wondering what your thoughts are? Ta!
The nursery DD went to before school started, sent out a newsletter once with something similar. It was just before Christmas and it said that people would not be allowed to take their children home if they were intoxicated or had clearly been drinking - they quoted some legislation that said they were unable to release the child into the care of even a parent if they were under the influence.
To be fair to the nurseyr, if they are aware of some parents collecting children in an unfit state, then they really do have to be seen to be doing something about it.
I don't see why it should upset or ofend people who are not actually trying to collect their children in an unfot state. I'd been pleased my child's nursery actually cared enough to try and do something about it.
Agree it's a bit off to say 'it has come to our attention', makes everyone go 'is it him,is it her?' but agree with the premise that there should be a policy. They are obliged to spell it out so that if they do ever have to call social services, people can't say they haven't been forewarned...
I'm convinced that a parent of one of the children at my DSs' nursery sometimes turns up "under the influence" and I am in a really difficult position - I don't want to approach her directly (n case I'm wrong), nor do I want her to drive off with her DS and crash the car.
I have been thinking about having a word with the nursery, and would be perfectly happy for them to put out a newsletter like that.
It is a private nursery, quite small, but not posh by any means. The truth is, their policy of contacting social services has never been made clear and this was reflected on their last OFSTED report. Indeed, as marymillington and kidkeedie said they really have a problem with their communication skills. I did actually wonder this morning 'who might it be?'. I do need to talk to the manager about my ds 'hurt' (as he says) on his chin last Thursday as no one noticed it and it wasn't reported in the accident book. I just find the wording of the letter indeed a bit strange.
When dd2 was in nursery there was a mother who regularly dropped off drunk (she walked into the wall once in front of me) but she never picked up in that state it was always the Dad that picked up usually with 'Mammy isn't feeling very well'
Obviously, that's I what I meant...I am not that stupid to think that's it is ok to turn up stoned or pissed at nursery!!!
Sorry guys, but English is not my first language, I probably didn't express myself very well.
I think that the bit I'd take issue with is "are chosing to use illegal substances during their spare time'"...... my response to that would be "and...?". What a parent chooses to do in their spare time is bugger all to do with the nursery. If an individual parents is obviously under the influence when they pick up their child that is a different matter. Badly written to say the least
every service that looks after children in any capacity has a legal duty of care protect children and to report to the police or SS an incident where a child is in danger.
i thought everyone knew that, the nursery spelling it out in this fashion is bound to create worry, gossip and bad feeling.
all they effing need to do if the are so damn concerned is call the police to say that a car with x registration is being driven with a stoned individual behind the wheel and also have a child in the back.
over, done with, and in complete confidence and even anonymity.
otoh, the nursery manager ought to have a confidential word , expressing their concerns to and giving support to the suspected user/abuser before contacting the police or ss.
sending out a newsletter with this just points to the weaknesses of the management imho.
I never said I was upset. It took the management two weeks to put a notice on the door to say there was a case of chicken pox b4 Christmas. Of course, they have a duty of care and their message couldn't be clearer.
Sorry but what the hell has it to do with either the nursery or the other parents what people do 'in their spare time?!'
In my spare time, i drink and I use recreational drugs. Regularly. I certainly wouldnt class it, as you have, as a problem! its a lifestyle choice, not a problem. And it has no bearing on my role and responsibilities as a mother, as it is something I do not do around my DS. fact, i am also a heavy smoker but do not even smoke in front of him.
If one of of the other mothers at my DS nursery knew this about me, and contacted SS, i would be livid.
My spare time is exactly that, and noone elses business.