I became a mum for the first time this year (15 week old boy ) and at the moment I am a stay at home mum while my partner works full time, either 7am - 3pm or 3pm - 11pm. As we moved house a few months ago I currently do not have a job to return to.
I love spending time with my son everyday and we have an amazing bond and he's such a happy baby but over the last few weeks I've started to feel really - dare I say it - bored, as well as very, very lonely. None of my friends have children, I don't drive (but I do aim to finish learning this summer) and our house isn't in the city centre (so not many shops/places nearby), with the average age of our small amount of neighbours being 60.
I feel awful for feeling "bored" but it's purely because I get very little adult conversation in my day and I end up just sitting in all day, sometimes I don't leave the house for a few days at a time because I get too nervous to leave. Occasionally I will go for a walk with the pram or maybe sit outside with my son in the garden so he is getting fresh air etc. but that's really it.
My dad pops in for 10 minutes after work sometimes and my mum lives 3 hours away, my sister only really gets weekends to pop in but even then it's only for a few hours every now and again and then I'm left alone all day until my partner gets home. We have a great relationship right now, he is a great hands on dad and appreciates that I get bored and lonely but right now there's not much he can do about that which I understand.
Recently I've been thinking about getting a part-time job, one or two days a week max and maybe putting my son to a nursery on those days but I feel too scared to leave him with strangers all day in case something happens - which I know is silly - but I just get myself worked up and worried. I know there are many great nurseries/childcare services out there full of fantastic employees but I just can't seem to imagine myself dropping him off for the day and leaving him there. I feel as though he would be upset with me which I know is ridiculous. I want to be able to over-come this but I am also afraid that I look horrible leaving my 15 week old son at a nursery just so I can get some time to myself where I don't have to refer to myself out loud as mummy in a childish voice. I do, of course, understand some mum's don't have a choice in putting their child to a nursery at a young age so I would never judge any other mum for it but for some reason I feel like it's wrong if I do it?
I just feel if I got a part-time job it would just give me the chance to socialise more and bringing in some extra cash is always a bonus but am I wrong for feeling like that? Should I be wanting to leave the house and my son when he is only 15 weeks? Obviously I love him to pieces and don't resent my son but I just feel like I'm going to go mad if I'm stuck at home like this for much longer :( I'm quite a shy person so find it difficult to consider going to a mother and toddler group.
Has anyone felt the same or can offer any advice?
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marylb1 · 07/06/2016 23:46
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