We had to change ds's nursery due to a house move. He loved his old nursery (had been there since age 2.10). He's now 3.6. He attends 2 full days per week (was 3 but I managed to drop a day). The other days are a combination of childminder and pre-school, which is all going really well.
Anyway, he hates nursery. Cries about it all the time. Thinks about it when he's not there and asks constantly if it's nursery tomorrow. When it is nursery day, he has actually been fine for the last four sessions and has got dressed and ready quite happily.
They mostly report him to have been 'sad' (their word) during the day, seeking reassurance constantly.
At the previous nursery he was full of beans and took part in everything. Apparently he 'needs lots of encouragement' to join in anything now.
What worries me most, I think, is the quality of interaction with adults in the nursery. So far, literally ALL I've seen of adult-child interaction is behaviour management/ task direction. So just 'stop that', 'be kind', 'coat off' etc. DH, who takes him in, says that some mornings he has to seek out a staff member in order that they notice and acknowledge DS's arrival.
I spoke to the room manager today. She seemed unconcerned but said that he was on the peripheries, didn't join in much etc. I asked what they could try next to help settle him better, and she suggested changing key worker, which I agreed to. She also agreed to trying to actively involve him in group activities.
It's been 5 weeks now. I don't know how long to leave it before I give up and have to do another transition and settling in! It's not possible to do the two days in his other setting. Nanny is out of the question. I don't want these last months before school to be miserable!
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parrotonmyshoulder · 05/02/2016 21:00
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