Little long due to background info:
Basically my DD is 3 and attends local nursery. Her grandparents (dad's side) used to pick her up for dad but I had some serious issues with them. (They think I don't 'deserve' her and would like to adopt, have made false allegations with SS etc).
They were keeping any info from nursery from me intentionally including paperwork and accident reports. Her log book, any info given about anything at all. Nursery said they'd provide an additional set for me on my pick up day but it proved too much for them to remember. There is a lot of kids in all fairness.
Grandparents are/were a flight risk as they were denied custody/access via court (obviously) and may take more extreme measures to get what they want. Most their family is abroad or the other end of this country so I was worried they would simply pick her up from nursery one day and not return her.
They also would take things from her school bag and leave her without the necessary things for school. And other various concerns (sending DD in soiled clothes).
Basically my best option was to tell dad he HAD to be responsible for pick ups/drop offs on his days or he couldn't have her at nursery times.
I informed the nursery of the various risks, mainly of the fight risk and advised grandparents had NO permission to enter the nursery for my DD or be told any info regarding her care/given her personal documents.
I thought that was that, but got a phone call last week saying it had been 40mins and no-one had picked her up. I drove up to nursery to get her (I was furious) and by the time i got there they were handing her over to granda!!
God knows how long they've been doing it but it was not the first time. I wasn't informed of any changes. Surely if a parent says "this person cannot collect my child" they shouldn't be allowed to just go get her willy nilly?
If you're wondering about dad he's basically not bothered about DD but his access is set in stone via court so I can't control his lack of bothering while she's there. He only has a court order because his parents paid for it because their attempts fell through.
My point is, have nursery breached any rules? I advised the office, staff, key workers and put it in writing that grandparents couldn't collect DD but they were allowed to anyway and I had zero knowledge of it.
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WalkingBlind · 26/01/2016 09:41
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