Hi everyone,
I really really need some support and advice. I am Mum to 2-year old twins and am tying myself in knots over trying to balance work with childcare costs.
I was studying for a PhD when I fell pregnant, so when they were aged 1 they went to nursery full time so I could study. I paid for nursery using my savings (which are now all gone) so that I could finish my PhD. Now I have finished studying and I've just started a GREAT full time job with a good salary for my field and great benefits. I took the job and enrolled the twins in nursery full time, with a local nanny doing nursery drop-offs and pick-ups due to my hours of work.
Now I've started the new job and have realised that after deductions (Tax, NI, student loan etc) my monthly wages don't actually cover the cost of nursery & nanny. We're short by about £400 a month. My husband's salary only just covers our other expenses (rent, bills, food etc) and so we really cannot afford to subsidise my job by £400/month. We also have some outstanding credit cards we need to keep on top of.
I have tried to find alternative solutions to this problem; I've looked at childminders and nannies, but the cheapest option in our area is the current arrangement of full time nursery + nanny to pick up / drop off. We have no friends and family who are able or willing to support us or help out.
I am turning myself in knots trying to figure out alternative options, and have got so stressed I now cry when I think about how to fix it / how impossible it all is. I really want to stay in my job as It's a great job and I want to build my career for my family's future, and also I'm aware that next year when the twins turn 3 years old things will get easier, as we'll get the 15hrs/week free childcare.
If I stay at home then we'll still be struggling financially. My reasoning is tat at least if I'm working, yes we're short of £400/month but at least there's two salaries coming in to cycle through so we can pay credit cards and overdrafts each month. If I don't work, and stay at home, my husband's salary will mean we're still really tight and there may not be spare money to pay off credit cards. I should add that my husband earns a decent wage which puts us well out of being eligible for any Government help or Child Tax Credits etc.
I'm basically going to work to pay my childcare costs (and more) and it seems ludicrous and far too stressful to arrange otherwise. Can anyone offer ANY advice on this topic? Am I just being stupid trying to make this work - i.e. should I just stay at home with the twins until they turn 3? In that case, I'll have to get some bar work or something in the evenings to support us, but I'll be knackered from looking after two 2-year olds during the day.
ANY help or advice would be REALLY appreciated, I am seriously worried I am heading for a nervous breakdown trying to juggle all of this :(
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Skyblue81 · 16/10/2015 14:03
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