hello,
i am a SAHM, my daughter is 27 months old, I also have a 7 month old daughter. I was diagnosed with PND a few months back and one of the ways I have found to cope has been to put my eldest daughter into nursery for one full day a week. she's gone there 7 times now, but each time she has been more and more upset about going and cried when approaching the building, cried when I left her there, and anxiously kept saying "mummy come back?"
ive tried explaining yes, I will always come back. and making it positive "ooh youre such a BIG girl, aren't you lucky? aren't you going to have fun at nursery" etc. and also talking about it during the week too rather than throwing it on her on the day.
however, at nursery she has also been crying more and more, and whilst when I first picked her up she;d run up to me happily chatting about all she'd got up to, she now looks really withdrawn and doesn't want to talk about it.
also, she's at the same time got really clingy at home (eg before, she;d happily go into another room to play on her own for 5 mins, whereas now she will stand next to me all the time nad say "mummy come mummy come play now"
sooo, basically, does anyone out there have any experience working in nurseries/with their own children?
-is this just a phase?
-is it worth her going through to learn to be more independent? or am I being unreasonable to expect her to do this when she doesn't "have to" as I don't go to work?
-will the result of keeping her in be more negative in the long run (eg fear of institutions) or will it help her?
I must add that the nursery are great, very supportive, they know the issues but don't seem worried, they have said its just a phase and she'll grow out of it and that it may be better to have her at nursery for MORE days as then she'll be more settled. but, whilst they are lovely, they have obvious vester interests.
any help greatly appreciated. also, I realise how lucky I am to even have a choice, i don't want to offend anyone who has to go back to work
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wafflingworrier · 06/11/2013 14:59
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