Hi.
My DD is 3. She has a 'friend' at nursery who she also used to see outside of nursery a fair bit as I was friendly with the mum. Trouble is, this child who is now 3.2 has been going through a biting/scratching/general aggressiveness 'phase' for over 2 years now. Due to which, I have distanced myself and DD (much to the mothers irritation).
In nursery, bites recorded (and it's definitely this particular child who's the culprit) is around 10, and she's only there for 1 day per week. Outside of nursery, before I finally had the good sense to remove my DD from this child's company, she must have been bitten etc by him a further 20 plus times.
My DD is not the only child this child bites, but it does seem to be more frequent with her.
To my knowledge, this child has now been on a 'behaviour plan' twice, and is about to embark on a third. However, there is no question of the child being excluded as it is a Sure Start Centre and as such, their positive behaviour policy means that no child will be excluded/suspended for any reason (as far as I can tell).
That is all very well and a lovely Utopian principle, but I am now at the point of considering removing my DD because of this childs behaviour, effectively meaning that she may be excluded from somewhere she is settled, which seems grossly unfair.
Also, I have seen how the mother handles the other child's behaviour, and in my humble opinion, I would say that it's inconsistent at best (and probably why this child has been in this 'phase' for such a long time).
I have asked for the nursery to change my DD's days in order that she is not in this child's presence (I'm flexible as work from home), as frankly, I have no confidence in the nursery assuring my DD's safety in regard to this child when he is in the vicinity. However, the nursery are not being particularly forthcoming with a solution to this.
I guess what I'm asking is a) WWYD? b) Am I overreacting by potentially removing her from the nursery? (she is otherwise very happy there), and c) has anyone any experience of these policies with Sure Start and is it a Nationwide policy?
Thanks in advance.
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WWYD? Repeated biting at nursery by same child.
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PatButchersEarring · 04/06/2012 18:10
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