Partner issues

[Sunday88]

Hello all

So I have some issues regarding my partners attitude.
Last night we had a fall out. (Now I don't know if I should laugh or cry at this) the fall out was simply over the fact that I started my menstrals, so he couldn't have any sex, and he was annoyed with me because we hadn't done it for a couple of days. ( we'd done it twice this week)
There's no denying my sex drive isn't quite up to speed, but it's down to the fact I have a 1yo and a 3yo .. and they are genuinely very hard work. Sometimes we go many days without sex.
So now he's in a stroppy mood like he's the one on his periods!

Secondly, which has me a little worried is his insecurities.. when myself or the kids show any love or affection to others, he gets very insecure. He thinks if we have a close relationship with other relatives l, we will become distanced from him. In a nutshell I think this is down to the fact, that from a young age he hasn't spent much time with his family. He even gets annoyed with my 3yo when she gets excited about spending time with her grandparents (maternal) to the point he's so annoyed he pushes her away himself !!?!

On a normal day he's an amazing dad and I can't fault him. But whenever my family want to be a little involved with the kids, it always ends up in a fall out between me and him.
Our fall outs are quite intense, I can't speak to him again unless we have another huge fall out and exchange a load of nasty words.
I just need some advice to how to handle this ??