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Husband driving me mad!!

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Littleloki · 23/02/2019 10:15

My husband is driving me completely insane.
I've recently been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. And it's wiping me out most days.
I've never been this bad with my health in the past year. But my husband has been supportive.
Told me to pack in work and that we would be ok on his wage.
So I happily stopped work and between tablets and physio, have been trying to get back on track.
Now two weeks ago, my husband got himself suspended from work. Him and a couple of the other lads he works with were having a play about and just mucking about. Playing a stupid game of trying to move before someone could kick you in leg. Ya know... Stupid men games. All laughing and joking together.

Anyways, his boss saw him kick this other employee and called him to his office.
He got suspended for assault on another employee. And the worse thing is, the bloke he kicked has put a statement in saying how he was viciously attacked!!!! An investigation is ongoing and the other lads have backed him up, but he's been sulking at home for two weeks.

I understand he is upset. I understand how frustrating it can be.
But he had sat there, for two weeks, doing absolutely nothing at home.
I'm struggling to even do the housework without crying with the pain most days. And he has sat there, watching me struggle and watching me cry.
And is complaining how his washing hasn't been done, or how the dishwasher hasn't been emptied!!

Now he's usually really helpful. Always helps out where I ask him to
But since this suspension, it's like he's gone on strike and some of the things he is saying is truly vile...
"You're faking being in pain"
"Just an excuse to be bone idle"

It's got to the point, I had to get his mum involved. She has been amazing, and to be honest she can be quite intimidating to some people but knows how to bring her son in line.

But I can't keep ringing a 70 year old woman to come and sort her son... It's not fair on her!

I know he's probably depressed and anxious about the whole situation, but he won't go to the doctor's and won't talk about it.
I'm at the end of my rope, and am considering walking out.
He has to go back on Monday for a disciplinary hearing.
Am just praying it goes ok and he gets back to normal.
Sorry for the long rant but needed somwhere to vent.....

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 24/02/2019 19:32

He has to go back on Monday for a disciplinary hearing.Am just praying it goes ok and he gets back to normal.

I'm sorry OP, I don't think this is going to have the outcome that you want. His story simply doesn't add up.

As for how he's treating you, I'd start to work out how you can support yourself, without him.

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