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What would you do with a secret you couldn't tell anyone?

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TornApart75 Thu 10-Jan-19 10:47:31

I have a secret. I have a loving family, a husband and four children. I have carried the secret around for several years. Most of the time I can put it out of my mind. When I think about it, it drives me nuts.
How would you cope?

JiltedJohnsJulie Fri 11-Jan-19 13:26:42

Tell a priest?

HollowTalk Fri 11-Jan-19 13:28:14

Tell us! You know you want to grin

Huntlybyelection Fri 11-Jan-19 13:28:19

I know secrets about other people. I tell nobody.

Secrets about me? I tell nobody. I've not that many. Mostly just the fact i don't like most people.

Nodrama999 Fri 11-Jan-19 13:29:38

It depends on the secret I suppose? In the end, secrets don’t really stay as secrets and if it’s causing issues for you then I think your best getting it out. After all, trust is built on honesty.

whilethechiefputsshineonleith Fri 11-Jan-19 13:30:58

i second telling a priest..

FadedRed Fri 11-Jan-19 13:33:29

What effect is this having on you? Depends on the implications of the nature of the secret and it’s potential to cause or limit damage to you or others.
Anonymous call to specific support agency helpline
Write it all down and burn the paper

cheercaptain Fri 11-Jan-19 13:34:34

Depends what or who is affected if its no longer a secret. Distract yourself so you don't have to think about it any longer than is necessary, for as long as you keep it a secret.

Yinv Fri 11-Jan-19 13:35:55

Are you carrying it for yourself
Or someone else

If it comes out, what will the consequences be?

abetterplace Fri 11-Jan-19 13:36:00

would the secret harm anyone if it is known (ie is the father of your oldest DC not their biological DF?)

is it likely the secret will get out?
and would it do more harm than good to let it out?

are you able to give us clues? or tell us what it is?

Reallyevilmuffin Fri 11-Jan-19 13:36:18

You're anonymous here, will get loads of response and as long as you can't be identified fire away. fsmile

Yinv Fri 11-Jan-19 13:36:28

But if you need to tell someone, I guess Samaritans.

OnlyFoolsnMothers Fri 11-Jan-19 13:43:33

tell MN...listening

GoldenBuns Fri 11-Jan-19 15:18:20

If it's someone else's secret, you tell no one.

Aprilshowerswontbelong Fri 11-Jan-19 15:21:49

Depends who's secret it is. If it's affecting your every day life could you tell your dh?

MaraScottie Fri 11-Jan-19 15:22:40

Tell us. Obvs.

Oddsocksandmeatballs Fri 11-Jan-19 15:29:41

I was entrusted with a secret many years ago (I wish I hadn't been), I have told no-one in real life and for the most part I try not to think about it but it can be hard. I would second someone like a clergyman or the Samaritans, you can email the Samaritans if you don't want to talk to anyone about it.

ShortandSweet96 Sat 12-Jan-19 20:19:39

OP, do you know who let the dogs out? Is that's your secret?!

Iloveacurry Sat 12-Jan-19 20:22:05

Definitely tell us.

greendale17 Sat 12-Jan-19 20:22:23

Start a thread on MN.

Tiredeyes21 Sat 12-Jan-19 20:22:57

Totally tell strangers on mumsnet !

MrsBunTheBakersMum Sat 12-Jan-19 20:23:05

You can’t not tell us now!!

Knittedfairies Sat 12-Jan-19 20:33:49

What are the consequences of the secret being told?

E20mom Sat 12-Jan-19 20:37:39

I have a few. I just continue to keep them secret.,

importantkath Sat 12-Jan-19 20:47:24

A friend shared a secret recently that I wish she hadn't.

I didn't tell anyone in RL though.

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