3 weeks in and still crying

[Belman19vc]

Hey guys, I'm new to all this motherhood business and I am wondering if it's normal to still be crying after giving birth 3 weeks ago? It's only every other day and seems to be when I am overly tired but can't help worrying. My partner has gone back to work and miss having him home to help. TIA

[Dayjon2012]

Don't worry I was like this for about 2 months after having my first child :)

[Belman19vc]

Thanks so much, just nice to hear that it's not just me who is/did feel like this 😊

[Staceyanng]

[Chezfleur]

Hi! I’m new to mumsnet and to being a mum (5wks Wednesday) and I still have crying days - now just on the days when I’ve had even less sleep than usual, although at 3 weeks I think I was still crying every day regardless! Somehow it does get a little easier to cope. Realise this post is a bit old now so hopefully you’re feeling better already.

[Belman19vc]

Chezfleur - so we are now 4 weeks in and fair to say the tears have dried up and I am getting used tithe 3 hours sleep at night 🙈 thanks for the reply, helps hugely especially at this time of night x

[Jadetilly]

Think I cried on and off for the first year just be conscious of it if you are still crying and having low mood bad thoughts etc after a few more weeks maybe go to see your daughter as a lot of mums suffer PND and there is other help apart from pills

[karenmshane]

My first was born blue, jaundiced, I had a blood transfusion, she cried endlessly for six months, I breast fed the entire time..then I had to return to work, I pumped my milk but introduced formula.. she calmed down .. I was so stressed, my second was 6 weeks early, tiny but latched on straight away but I had no milk, so she was formula fed, slept through the night 12 hours from 4 weeks old. .. so anyhoo.. I'm pregnant now with my new partner, I'm 44, my girls are teenagers.. only 9 weeks and crapping myself basically.. how and why now?? But trying to find the confidence to tell my older children!! Arrgghh

[karenmshane]

I need someone who got pregnant at 44 to tell me it's gonna be ok.. I've two teenagers, not looking forward to telling them.. my ex hubby left me and had 3 kids before he would allow the divorce to go through (less than five years apart) .. so he can shack up, have kids and expect us to now play, & pay for his mistakes... he doesn't know I'm pregnant.. I'm terrified to tell him,.. our marriage was incredibly abusive.. we are divorced but I'm still scared of him

[Chezfleur]

Hi @karenmshane, I've never been in your position but I do know people who've had babies in their forties and have thrived. I'm sure your teens will ultimately be excited, if a little surprised initially! Have you tried talking it through with your partner or a friend?

PS You might have more luck getting responses from people with similar experiences if you start a new thread xx

[sugarcoatedthorns]

belman and other new mums, I cried a lot too. First DC was a lot of health issues, and that definitely made the crying a lot worse. I was up front with MW & HV about it and they said not to worry, everything will settle down, and it does. I think the first one was more of a shock!
karenmshane I would celebrate your pregnancy for you, enjoy the secret time you have when only you know and I am very saddened to hear that after all these years you are still scared of your abusive ex. There is a better place for you to post your thread, on relationships, specifically abusive ones. You will a lot of support for your situation.

Its vital you keep you and the baby safe, its a dangerous time for you if he's still abusive of course he is they don't change maybe get some support from your MW before letting him have this info. I suspect you will have two extra little mums helping you once baby comes along!

BTW - Congratulations!!