Hi I'm new here and after some advice please. Me and my babies father split when I was 3 months pregnant. Our plan when baby was born was always the same:- is breastfeed on demand/Co-sleep etc. He was present at the birth although didn't speak to me or cut cord or anything,instead spent the time messaging his new partner. Since babies arrival (she's nearly 11 weeks) Iv allowed whatever access he wanted at my home. First 3 weeks he came 3-4 times a week then started asking if he could take her out alone etc to bond. Iv said no as obviously she is fed on demand etc and shouldn't imo be away from me. I have since then left him alone in my front room to spend time with her, keeping my 5yo (previous relationship) from going in there and allowing his family to come visit with him too. Anyway he started throwing around mediation a fair few weeks ago stating he would apply for it at 3 months. I sat and thought long and hard and came up with a proposal for him to see her more, little and often building up to whole days/overnight stays and weekends eventually come around 4years old. He's 100% said no to this and wants to start having her for half days from next week, while days from 6months and weekends from 9months!! I breastfed my son til he was 2yo and plan on doing the same with my daughter as he well knows. I can't express no matter how hard I try either. Also this past week he's said he cannot bare to be in the same room as me and feels uncomfortable visiting in my home despite the efforts iv gone to to make him welcome etc. My new partner also makes himself scarce every time he's here. Anyway iv now said as we both no longer want to be in the same room we should go to a contact centre, do mediation and ultimately go to court (it will def end up in court as he won't agree to anything u suggest) where do I stand??? Will I be forced to hand my breastfeeding baby over for weekends/days at such a young age whereby it will affect her feeding/emotional state?im suffering anxiety attacks daily just thinking about it continuously 😢 . I can't see how I could have been anymore reasonable tbh. I don't want him to not see her but I think he's expecting far far too much
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