divorcing with special needs kids

[abmommy]

Hi, im new here and after any support I can get! My husband announced he was leaving in July after 21 years together but took til mid august to go. Two weeks after he'd gone our two teens discovered evidence online that he had a new relationship. He had already moved her in in spite of swearing there was noone else when he left. He refused to divorce me but said he would agree if I divorced him. He hasnt returned papers to my solicitor and refuses to see or even text me. Both our kids have additional needs but he's not attending any appointments in spite of professionals asking him to to help with kids mental health. I thought I was in a happy supportive marriage but now.... It's like my loving husband died and has been replaced by monster. He's now informed kids he will be away with other woman from xmas eve until mid jan. They are upset that they won't see him at all over festive period and feel abandoned.

[Alfieisnoisy]

Welcome to Mumsnet abmummy

You might do better to get this moved to the Relationships topic. Lots of very knowledgeable posters there who could help you with advice.

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[abmommy]

Thanks, I've cut and pasted it to lone parenting thread.