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Getting married - jus found out I'm pregnant

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btb1978 Fri 15-Apr-16 16:52:03


Any advise welcome.

The date is set, venues, transport, photographer etc booked and deposits paid and I've just found out I'm pregnant with no. 2.

Earlier than planned and we're not going to change our wedding plans. What I am concerned about it that I am only 5 weeks and I'd like to keep it between hubby to be and me until after the scan. Problem being I went dress shopping with my mum today (it felt like it was too late to cancel) and feel like I'm deceiving her (especially as she's paying for the dress). We have another outing planned with my bridesmaid in a week.

Would you tell your mum or just come up with a reason for not going.

Oh and I'm going out with my bridesmaid in a week to try out our chosen venue for the hen do! I'm not a big drinker, but we're probably going to have some wine. What's my excuse without sounding obvious?!

Thanks in advance.


DawnMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 16-Apr-16 09:15:54

Hi btb, and a warm welcome to Mumsnet. smile

We just wondered if you'd like us to move this thread over to a different topic where there might be a bit more traffic? We could pop it in Chat or in our Pregnancy topic, whichever you'd prefer. Just hit the report button and let us know.

And congratulations, btw! flowers

arandomname Sat 16-Apr-16 09:20:32

If it was me I'd tell my mum.

But then I told everyone at 6 weeks as I'm no good at keeping secrets!

GiveMyHeadPeaceffs Sat 16-Apr-16 09:24:19

I'd tell my mum but then I told my mum when I was only about 7 weeks.

Congratulations OP!

NerrSnerr Sat 16-Apr-16 09:24:25

Although I didn't want to tell anyone I would possibly tell my mum in this instance. When I was pregnant I told a couple of people who I saw (as they'd guess anyway as I wasn't on the beer). Just make sure you make it clear not to tell others if you don't want.

AliceInUnderpants Sat 16-Apr-16 09:27:34

If you're not a big drinker, could you have the one glass then say it's making you feel a bit funny and switch to soft drinks? Or have a pressing appointment the following day and opt to drive instead?

chelle792 Sat 16-Apr-16 09:33:12

To be honest, I'd delay the dress shopping and tel a couple of people. You never know what size you're going to be. I found a dress, bought it, got pregnant, bought a maternity dress, lost the baby and had to get another dress.

An off the peg dress will be your friend. I bought my dress about three weeks before the wedding and got a seamstress to adjust it.

Hope you don't feel I'm being too negative, sorry. Your situation is pretty personal to me.

Congratulations and good luck

HSMMaCM Sat 16-Apr-16 09:37:53

You can say you're adjusting your diet, so you don't want to choose a dress until you know how your figure will change - true.

You could drive when out with your friend, or need to be up early, so you don't want to drink ?

btb1978 Sat 16-Apr-16 20:31:39

Thank you everyone for your advise.

I think you're right. I should tell my mum. probably in the next week.

I'm probably not even going to consider getting a dress until after the scan at least.

Chelle792, I'm so sorry for your loss. Such an awful thing for you to go through. Thank you for taking the time to reply. It can't have been easy for you.

Thank you again to everyone. All the best to you. Xx

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