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Am I ready? IVF/PGD(2 Posts)
I've decided to join to get a bit of honest/unbias advice from people that don't know me. I'm 28 and have been with my partner coming up 4 years, he is my soul mate so no concerns relationship wise. There is a genetic condition in my partners family which he has a 50/50 chance of carrying. We have spoken to specialists and we are suitable for PGD/IVF which is great. My concerns though are am I ready for this? I feel broody from time to time and I know that I do want children but I do not have the burning desire for children right now. My concern is though once I do feel the desire for children will it be too late for IVF/PGD to work, the younger you are the more chance you have of it working.
I think I'm scared, in my head I am still 18 and not old enough to start a family when in truth we both have our own house and in full time employment. Anyone else been through this or any other feelings of not being ready?
@MayDay37 Hi! I know your post is a month or so old but I wanted to say I'm going through PGD and still not sure if I am ready either! However, we started the ball rolling when I was 27 and I'm now 31 and only just had egg collection! This can be a long journey and in my head I thought it was sensible to start now. If you're lucky and you get some good embryos you can leave them in the freezer until you're ready (and your eggs will be younger). I also thought if I tried it and it didn't work I could never have any what ifs or regrets. As it happens, I've only got one that can be tested and suddenly I feel quite attached to it and if it is free of the condition (also 50%) I will be having it transferred. If you want to chat, please feel free to message me. I get EXACTLY how you feel and almost pulled out before starting my first round, but there's no harm in getting going with it.