Was it right to split up with ex?

[Dnbkittie]

I just wanted to get other people's views. My daughter's dad and i have broke up 3 times now, only once before our daughter. She was unplanned so we didn't consciously decide to have kids, we'd only been going out 18 months. We moved in, had a baby and then moved out after a year because i couldn't bear to live with him.

I fell out of love with him, hated how messy he was, hated how he couldn't support us financially so i moved to my mum's. For the next year we carried on having sex, and then he gave me an ultimatum. So i got back with him for 9 months, i was in my own place and he stayed a few times a week.

But i keep coming back to the point that we're not right for each other and I'm still not in love with him. I don't know why though as i do love being a family. So now we're apart again and he's guilting me, well trying to, to get back together. But i really don't want to. I just feel bad though as he sees his daughter less, and i can't bear seeing him so hurt.

I've said to see our daughter 3 times a week, but she can't stay at his during week as he works odd hours. So he gets a few hours once or twice during the week if his job allows then a day and overnight at weekend. But i still feel so guilty about this like it's not enough. Do you think this is fair? I don't want it to be every other weekend type thing. I couldn't bear them not seeing each other every few days.

Am i right in splitting up and how do i handle all this guilt? I am gutted, i just can't be with him. And is the arrangement with our daughter a good one?

Thanks

[Poshindevon]

Please dont waste your life om a man you do not love. You do need to stop having sex with him as it is sending mixed messages.
If he wants to see his child he needs to make time. This is not all down to you.

[Dnbkittie]

Feels like it is down to me, i just feel so guilty. Guilty on him and my daughter. It's horrible.