Dd, 2 1/2 is about 3 weeks into potty training and doing so incredibly well (no accidents in AGES and dry all night most nights too! ). But I haven't really begun to encourage her to use the toilet. Probably because I've been so bowled over by how well she's been doing with the potty. She will wee on the toilet if she happens to be in the bathroom or we're out. But she's never pooed on the toilet and generally prefers the potty.
Ds1 moved fairly gradually from using the potty to using the toilet. At first he would only use the potty. Next he started using those little child-sized toilets when we were out but only the potty at home. He then moved on to using the toilet for weeing and the potty for pooing before finally giving up the potty for good. It probably took about a month altogether to get to that stage but ds1 was a late starter so I don't know if that made a difference or not.
Settle for what you have ! She sounds liek she is doing well. Continue to use the toilet at other people's houses and out (that way the option of a potty other than at home doesn't ever enter into it) and she'll make the trransition in her own time.
With ds we only had a potty in one toilet after the first few weeks and an insert seat for the other. Gradually he found the toilet more comfy but continued to use the insert. dd didn't actually use a potty for long - her choice - and didn't use a seat insert either, preferring to perch on the seat proper.
Dd's got a very small bottom and even with the seat inserts she's incredibly precarious on the edge of a toilet. When we're out I usually have to hold her under the armpits while she has a wee. How do you get yours to sit confidently on an ordinary toilet seat?
Hi Shazzler ! She seems terrified at the prospect of being on the toilet seat on her own unless there's one of her smaller seats on it. I can't work out how she can balance herself, her bottom just goes straight down the middle of the toilet!
Funny you say that, gingerbear, I'm also very paranoid about public toilets and wash my hands about 10 times after using one. Maybe dd's picking up some anxiety from me. I think I may have to always hold dd on 'big' toilets too ...