Ok, so maybe this belongs more in the AIBU, but just wanted to get views and some sympathy... DD, nearly 2.5, has been potty trained for about 2 months. Anyway, we spend a lot of time out and about, and whenever we are in a cafe, etc. I always make sure she uses the toilet. But I also carry with me one of those portable pottete things, with the disposable bag. Yesterday we were at our local playground. It's always full of toddlers and I have always seen other parents changing nappies there, and also sometimes toddlers doing discreet wees in the bushes. Anyway, we were there yesterday, and DD needed a wee - my stroller (with pottete) was on the other side, quite a long walk away, and so I decided to just quickly take DD to the side, under a tree. Two minutes later the park attendant walked up to me and told me that someone had just complained about me letting DD do that ! I guess I was just really surprised by that... There are some toilets there but they are not that clean. Today we were back at the same playground, and DD suddenly announced she needed a poo. Taking her to the toilet was not an option because she can't poo on an adult toilet (she needs to be comfortably seated IYKWIM). So I took her to a really secluded area behind lots of bushes and she was sitting on the pottete, with her dress covering it, but the whole time I was feeling really stressed that someone would see us and complain !!! Sorry, just has to get that off my chest... Being a parent is pretty hard I think, and just when I think I am doing well, it always seems to turn out that in fact I am doing the wrong thing, and annoying/offending other people.
Imo you were fine - I always think that dogs wee every where so if needs must why not small children? Adults doing it is against the law, but small children are fine! My 3 had 3 wees between them in the woods today (2 mile walk from loos - what else could they do?).
Moondog - the pottete has a special disposal bag, so I just tied the bag securely and then just put it in the bin. (Don't worry, would never just deposit a poo on the grass somewhere - that would be gross !!! )
Its only like putting a dirty nappy in a nappy bag and then putting that in the bin. The portable potty bags are just like nappy bags, but I'm afraid they are so expensive I'm looking for a cheaper alternative.
Ah but that doesn't make it even "more" gross than leaving it on the grass. If you are a clothie user or a dispie flicker then I understand your POV that it should be put in a toilet and not on the grass or in the bin.
Moondog - I am confused - I am not sure what one is supposed to do with poo/poo nappies in that case? (Even when at home, the whole scraping off the nappy thing never really worked for me, without going into too much graphic detail.) What about people with dogs, who carry those little bags for picking up the dog poo - they don't take them home ! Sometimes there are special bins for those but not always. Sorry to be gross, but what about tampons/sanitary towels - surely people put those in the bin???
On the rare occasion I have had to dispose of poo in a carrier bag I have put it in a dog poo bin - that's ok isn't it? I have dug a hole on hillside during an illconceived walk up a hill with a 2 yr old.
I think that presumably the people who complained were obviously born continent.
I can only assume that the complainants have not ever had the pleasure of early potty training. Fair enough not to use park as a toilet when LO's are fully trained and capable of giving a little notice between the announcement and the deed itself... but honey, we all got to start somewhere!
I would also say that I own dogs too. I do not see the problem really. I have pickd up poo (dog and toddler) in bags and taken it home if there are no dog waste bins. Gross? No, not really,..you pick it up with a bagged hand, tie the bag and double bag it. Doesnt kill you it never touches you.
I hope that you continue to do what you need to do to get your DD happily trained