I have recently moved back to Walsall from London. My little one has just turned 2 and not ready for potty training however in the meantime I have had so many mums look at me in shock and horror that he's not potty trained yet cos apparantly he should have been by age 1
Hi, just ignore them - most children don't get any bladder control until they are atleast 18 months old. What they probably mean is their child was being placed on the potty at one but that's very different to a child actually using the potty of their own free will.
Erm, babies DO have bladder control and if given the option will wait to use the potty of their own free will.
My baby has since she was 10 weeks old, but she is not potty trained, she is ECed. No pressure from me, all done at her pace as my DD wishes. She crawls to the potty to be lifted on and grunts before a poo and activelly prefers to use a potty rather than her nappy.
I do think it's a bit of a conspiracy by nappy companies to make us believe that potty training before the age of two or three not only is impossible, but will cause no end of problems if you attempt to potty train too early.
I never tried to potty train dd1 until she was nearly two, even though at the age of 21 months she spontaneously used the potty when she happened to see it. It just never occurred to me that she would be ready before - everything I had read says the age of two.
I was more open minded with dd2, and she potty trained herself at the age of 18 months, within two weeks.
I wonder about the babies that train themselves - what does this actually mean? That they ask for the potty before its offered? I have just potty trained my DD, 2.4, having tried at repeated intervals since she was 18mths, and i seriously don't think she was physically ready before she was 2 with hindsight (wonderful thing i know). I don;t think she would have had the slightest inclination to just do it herself had i not taken the plunge and got rid of nappies outside of nap and nighttimes.Interested in the idea though as i have DS (1yr) and would love to see him train himself.
belgian chox - I mean she pointed at her bottom, said 'kaka' (poo) and walked towards the potty that she's seen her sister use. I pulled down her trousers, put her on the potty, and the result was wee. She had a couple of accidents a day for about two weeks, but mostly she's been great.
She very regularly saw her sister use the potty, ao you could say that her three year old sister trained her!
In some countries they don't use nappies, and some just not very often. They work out when a child needs the loo, after takes a few days but you work it out eventually, so say just after a feed or when the child wakes up, then you give a audio cue i.e. "ppshhhhhhttt" and hold the child over a bowl/toilet/pottie, you tune in quickly to your baby. If you have the time and the patience, it can work very well. From what Ive read, Wetting your self / soiling your self, is a learned behauviour. You just have to relise your working iwth a MUCH smaller bladder/muscles. As with any behaviour if you've done it for 2 years (all your life!) it takes a while to get out off.
Alternitivly, Some parents in the uk/usa that do this (over here its called Elimination communication) they do that at home, but when traveling / shopping they use a nappy.
Dh and Sil were dry by one , mil got a book out of the library in the 70's.
We part time ec'd ds and he was dry at home during the day at 20 mnths just took me a little bit longer to bite the bullet and take him out in pants , we have had hardly any pooey nappies since 9 mnths.
According to MIL my DH and SIL were both potty trained (poo and wee, night and day) at about 9m. Neither of them ever had a tantrum either. Apparently.
Having been told this, I asked whether they managed to take themselves to the loo during the night - how did they get out of their cots? MIL replied that it was lovely to see the flowers looking so pretty.
According to my aunt, my cousin could speak in complete sentences when he was 6m.
You know rather better than anyone when your child is ready for potty training. Don't be nagged.
And my MIL is an idiot with the memory of a rather stupid fish. My aunt is mad.