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Children refusing to share pizza

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Tempjob Sat 10-Mar-18 19:46:07

I'm a nanny. Today I took two children (7 and 6) out for a pizza as a treat. Wanting to limit expenditure, I ordered them one pizza each, with the understanding that they would each give me a slice from their plates. When the pizzas arrived, they were huge. Yet both children refused to give me a slice. I sat there with an empty plate while they ate and then they wasted half their pizzas anyway. I had not seen this greedy side to them before and am so disappointed.

Yukbuck Sat 10-Mar-18 19:54:26

What are you asking?

savoyCabbage Sat 10-Mar-18 19:56:02

I’d have taken it from them.

FissionChips Sat 10-Mar-18 19:56:53

Why didn’t you get the leftovers boxed up to take home or, you know, be an adult and just take what you need whilst mumbling about sharing etc.

NotAllTimsWearCapes Sat 10-Mar-18 19:58:07

Are you new to nannying? I can’t imagine why you didnt just divvy up the pizzas. confused

demirose87 Sat 10-Mar-18 20:00:12

You're the adult in the situation and you have the authority. You should have told them that they were to share and then just taken your share.

Tempjob Sat 10-Mar-18 20:00:30

My question is: in your family, would you share a pizza in a restaurant, or would you order one pizza each? Maybe it is a cultural difference between my family and the nanny family. Last time I ordered a pizza each I got told off from the boss for spending too much money.

peachypetite Sat 10-Mar-18 20:02:06

It doesn't matter about cultural differences. Why aren't you taking control of the situation?!

AlonsoTigerHeart Sat 10-Mar-18 20:02:20

They are 6 and 7?
You are in charge, you make them share

WinnieTheW0rm Sat 10-Mar-18 20:04:11

That was because you required a vegan pizza, and was a different family, wasn't it?

Did these employers actually ask you to take the DC out for their lunch? And did you limit the DC to vegan pizza so you could share?

I think perhaps choosing a different lunch venue might be the durable solution. As you don't seem to get on with pizzerias

FissionChips Sat 10-Mar-18 20:04:29

But why didn’t you just take your share of pizza?

Tempjob Sat 10-Mar-18 20:04:59

Yes I probably should gave taken a slice from them, but one child was saying "that's not fair" and started to whinge.

Couldn't box the left overs because the children had coughed all over them and picked at them.

peachypetite Sat 10-Mar-18 20:07:52

You sound completely out of your depth to be honest. I don't know why you are letting yourself be dictated to by children

TheBrilloPad Sat 10-Mar-18 20:07:55

Is it the same family as last time with the pizza treat day out issue? Where they shared a pizza and you got your own vegan one and spent £35 kitty in a day and the family weren't impressed?

If so, I think maybe you just need to stop going out for pizza with kids, it's not working out for you 😂😂😂

NotAllTimsWearCapes Sat 10-Mar-18 20:10:03

but one child was saying "that's not fair" and started to whinge

Yes, that’s what kids do. Again, are you new to nannying? You seem to have no authority at all over them.

PinotAndPlaydough Sat 10-Mar-18 20:10:47

Ummmm you are the adult! I actually don’t understand why you just sat there with an empty plate.
If that had been me with the children I looked after and I had made it clear before ordering that we would be sharing it out then that’s exactly what would have happened.
If they had made a fuss, started to be naughty or rude etc I would have had the whole lot packed up into takeaway boxes and we would have left.

Those children will walk all over you if you don’t start being firmer with them and if you struggle with that you are probably in the wrong job.

MyBrilliantDisguise Sat 10-Mar-18 20:11:02

OP, why didn't you learn from the last thread about this? The family said they didn't want you to spend too much. You've bought two little kids a pizza each in a restaurant - why would you do that, knowing how expensive it is?

Tempjob Sat 10-Mar-18 20:11:24

They are just so greedy and spoiled and selfish. I also felt a bit judged because the families on the tables around us were looking at me when the child started to whinge about me taking the slice, like I was stealing his food.

Yes,boss had asked me to take them out for a treat because it was a special day for charge and her best friend.

LaurieFairyCake Sat 10-Mar-18 20:13:22

You order yourself a pizza and then another for the two children to share.

You MUST act like you’re in charge and not expect them to be accommodating or socialised - they’re 6 and 7!

NannyR Sat 10-Mar-18 20:13:43

In that situation, I would have said to them "we're ordering two pizzas between the three of us, what toppings would you like?", ask the waiter for three plates and put the pizzas in the middle for everyone to help themselves to.

martellandginger Sat 10-Mar-18 20:13:51

You tell them you are taking a slice of both plates and then you do it. They will walk all over you if you can’t keep control.

Steeley113 Sat 10-Mar-18 20:14:12

Don’t think nannying is for you if you can’t tell a 6 and 7 year old to share pizza...

whirlygirly Sat 10-Mar-18 20:14:21

Why didn't you get them the kids menu and get yourself a margherita or something? All the main pizza places do great kids deals. I'm sure your boss didn't expect you to just watch them eat.

And I'd have divvied them up as soon as they arrived, put them right if they protested and not given a shit what anyone else nearby thought. And I'm quite soft.

Fromage Sat 10-Mar-18 20:17:31

Nannying is not for you.

You let a 6 and 7 year old dictate that they would not be sharing their pizzas with you, despite being told they would be. You didn't teach them to share, you let them behave selfishly and rewarded them by not taking control of the situation and telling them you were taking YOUR SHARE of the pizzas.

Now they know they can say 'no' to you and you will obey.

And to say they were greedy - they weren't behaving nicely but sometimes children don't and it's up to us adults to show them what's what. I expect they knew they could wind you up so they did.

Onceuponatimethen Sat 10-Mar-18 20:18:08

You don’t sound like you like your charge very much. I feel really sad for the child. If your mb reads mn you are also going to beVERY identifiable.

The issue here is that ground rules should have been clearly laid at the start - two pizzas but adult gets slice of each. And if they moaned I would take pizza, take slices and then if further moaning give charge a consequence after warning eg this is rude so warning if you don’t stop no tv later, or whatever

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