Long message.. SO GRATEFUL IF ANYONE READS AND RESPONDS!!! DD is 19. She is amazing, beautiful, loved by peers, has responsible ft job, saved for her first car, god we are proud. But I think she is also mentally ill or autistic or both. She started crying at school / nursery at 3yrs and I mean every day constantly. Friendship issues, verbal bullying. We moved area at 8yrs and she was happy and confident. She has remained very popular socially since but started melting down and rages at 13. We found a therapist who suggested possible autism but official diagnosis was no. I see why...she showed flexibility and was only showing problems in the home. She always seemed (and was I think) happy at school. Only with husb sister and myself does she show her unhappiness. She is often nice but apallingly rude on a daily basis. When we try to challenge this, or when she is anxious about any change or problems, she really melts down. Very similar to my hf autistic neice. Screaming, breaking things, hurling awful insults. She also seems unsure about relationships...for example seems to be in unrequited and undeclared love with her best friend so anxiety over plans with her lead to meltdowns. We adore her but we are exhausted and worried and also the constant yelling is very hard on DD no.2 (17). DD 1 definitely does not think she has problems with anxiety or anger and strongly believe I try to wind her up and her meltdowns are my fault. Anyone got similar? We try to avoid conflict and be loving as much as poss but it's so hard and I am not sure she will improve. We would NOT ask her to move out, we want to support her and she can't afford it and is studying in the evenings which we are happy to help her with. So no 'tough love'
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Fizzysours · 17/07/2018 21:14
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