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Bereavement of mumsnetter Catthiefkeith

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slithytove Fri 18-Aug-17 20:05:30

I don't know if this is the right thing to do, and I'm so sorry if not.

catthiefkeith passed away today.

I know there are mumsnetters who know her know how amazing she is, and I just wanted to raise a glass to her memory on here, where she brought a smile to so many faces with her stories of her mad life.

Rest in peace lovely lady.

BiggerBoatNeeded Tue 22-Aug-17 13:13:31

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Bloomed Tue 22-Aug-17 13:24:21

Does reporting posts work to get mn's attention?

BiggerBoatNeeded Tue 22-Aug-17 13:28:01

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SweetBabyJebus Tue 22-Aug-17 13:38:02

Link to the charities noticeboard here:

Bloomed Tue 22-Aug-17 13:42:45

Thanks Bigger I've reported my post to see of HQ would support the campaign idea.

Nabootique Tue 22-Aug-17 15:24:19

I've only just heard the news via a thread talking about vaccination. I don't think I ever spoke to CTK directly, but her posts always made me smile. The sort of post you read, grin, then look at the username and aren't surprised. So, so sad. Her poor family. RIP CatThiefKeith.

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig Tue 22-Aug-17 22:08:02

I've donated. I said may all her tents be comfy ones. flowers

TheSassyAssassin Tue 22-Aug-17 23:21:33

Thanks for the link again SBJ, donated now xx

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday Tue 22-Aug-17 23:25:27

Thank you for the link. I donated earlier too.

MamOfTwo Tue 22-Aug-17 23:26:59

On previous page, SandyMumsnet said they may mention in Talk Round-Up. Could a link to donation link be included on that too to reach people who it may have slipped by?

TheSassyAssassin Tue 22-Aug-17 23:30:21

Good idea! I'll report your post! X

TheSassyAssassin Tue 22-Aug-17 23:33:32

Reported smile

SapphireStrange Wed 23-Aug-17 10:48:04

Oh God, what awful news. She was such a fun, witty and humane poster.

I had no idea about adult meningitis being so quick, deadly or hard to spot. I'll definitely be researching it and donating.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude Wed 23-Aug-17 13:32:40


Bloomed - Good idea

Whinesalot Wed 23-Aug-17 14:02:47

Her poor DD. Anything to keep her memory alive for her DD would be a great idea - as long as she can't be outed for the more personal threads. Maybe HQ could do a name change for her and print the funny threads out to be made into a book?

GloGirl Wed 23-Aug-17 14:10:27

Oh I've read this so late! She was a memorable, incredibly funny, strong Mumsnetter. Awful news sad

A true loss. RIP CTK flowers

FuckYouLinda Wed 23-Aug-17 14:14:31

I'm very saddened to hear this. Like most of you, her posts stood out for me and she very quickly became one of my favourite posters.

My condolences to her online and RL friends and family.

Fauxgina Wed 23-Aug-17 17:27:49

I've donated, we had a terrible meningitis scare with my little one.

I was so fond of CatThiefKeith, much love to her family. Some stars just shine brighter, CTK star

ScaryMonstersAndSuoerCreeps Wed 23-Aug-17 17:52:03

I started my live dog on the train thread as CTK suggested. smile

ScaryMonstersAndSuoerCreeps Wed 23-Aug-17 17:52:23

I started my live dog on the train thread as CTK suggested. smile

ScaryMonstersAndSuoerCreeps Wed 23-Aug-17 17:58:14

Wilf had his meningitis vaccination last, September. He was a year too old but when he was three weeks old we nearly lost him due to unexplained fits and I wasnt taking any chances.

Lynnm63 Wed 23-Aug-17 17:58:34

I think HQ should include the one where she bought the ornaments on eBay whilst under the influence. I think this thread should be added to classics too so her dd and dh can read how much CTK amused us and how well liked she was when it's less raw.
Im glad I told her how much I enjoyed her posts. It feels like I've lost a real friend.

FruBayerischOla Wed 23-Aug-17 18:24:37

All of CTK's threads had me guffawing - and she was always so ... just ... lovely,

When she was considering buying the camper van - and then the boat!

I think it might have been a thread earlier this year (?) when her DH (sorry MrCTK, but she loved you for it anyway) bought her a tandem hang-gliding experience for her birthday! She said she hated heights, but MrCTK had bought the 'experience voucher' because she had once, whimsically, wondered what their house and garden looked like from the air. The lovely thing about CTK was, she wasn't having a whinge about the hang-gliding voucher at all - she was just bemused and wondering what all her MN friends made of it. Of course, it turned into one of her hugely amusing threads. Just great fun - as always.

These amusing, but always kind, threads will be how I remember her. I'm sorry that I only got the chance to meet her once.

PolkaHeart Wed 23-Aug-17 18:33:59

Heartbreaking news. CTK was hilarious - I loved her threads.

Thought are with her friends and family. Sleep tight Keith x

MiaowMix Thu 24-Aug-17 10:31:28

Such sad news, she seemed a lovely, funny and warm poster. Hugest condolences to her family flowers

LornaMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 25-Aug-17 09:40:31


Could MN perhaps do a campaign reminding to vaccinate for meningitis in CTK's memory?

Hi there Bloomed,

Thanks so much for the great idea.

We've passed this over to our campaigns team and they're going to have a think about this. We can't make any promises but it's a very good idea and one that will certainly be looked into.


TheDailyWail Sat 26-Aug-17 20:05:13

The round up was lovely. Thank you MNHQ. flowers

Veterinari Sat 26-Aug-17 20:25:38

Could someone please link to the Talk roundup - I can't find it

elephantoverthehill Sat 26-Aug-17 20:28:00

I've looked too, but can't find it either.

AlpacaLipsNow Sat 26-Aug-17 20:35:44

I didn't get it either.

SweetBabyJebus Sat 26-Aug-17 20:51:21

Talk Round-up
Earlier this week we received the very sad news that longstanding Mumsnetter CatThiefKeith had passed away, suddenly and unexpectedly. In her honour, we've brought together the very best of her Mumsnet witticisms for this week’s Talk Round-Up. This one's for you, Keith. wine

We've all done daft things after a drink - said something we regret, been sick in the hallway...or, if you're CatThiefKeith, done a spot of questionable online shopping.
"I've apparently 'won' these beauties in an online charity auction," she groaned. "Wine is my only excuse."

Er, they're...well. They're something alright.
"How much did you pay for them?" asked TooManyButtons.
"Two quid for the pair!" replied Keith cheerfully. "I vaguely remember thinking they would make a good talking point."
As it happens, many Mumsnetters are partial to a spot of drunken consumerism.
"I bought a head torch once because I was pretending to be a mole," confessed WallToWallBastards. "Took me a while after delivery to work out why I'd bought it in the first place."
"Reminds me of DH's mate, who in a very drunken moment won an eBay bid for four tyres for a Porsche. He didn't have a Porsche at the time and still hasn't." MinesaPinot sighed.
AudreyBradshaw was hardcore, and did her drunken shopping in person: "I once went to Asda slightly inebriated and bought 18 bananas, two Pot Noodles, a packet of Jammie Dodgers and a Connect 4 board game."
Meanwhile, Frouby was still trying to think of a use for Keith's eggs.
"Do you have any DCs in your life you dislike? You could pass them off as luxury Hatchimals and tell the DC they need to hold them for as long as it takes to hatch them," she suggested thoughtfully.
"Or maybe they will hatch. Maybe you'll wake one night to a cracking noise and find an ancient ninja doing battle with a dragon in your dining room."
Well, that'd certainly be £2 well spent.

"My fecking sister bought a tent yesterday," announced CatThiefKeith. "She begged me to help her put it up as she didn't know how, promised DD and my nieces they could sleep in it, then got s***faced and has gone to bed. Both nieces have bottled out, but DD was already asleep inside, so I had to get in. Now there's a f**** thunderstorm going on and some b*** has locked the back door! What's the betting the poxy tent is going to leak?"
"Is there no way of calling one of them to let you in?" asked Sparechange. "Or can you throw pebbles at a window to wake someone up, like they do in films?"
Keith shook her head. "They all sleep at the front of the house and I'm out the back. Too lardy to scale the side gate. My phone is indoors and I am Mumsnetting from DD's iPad. Besides - it's chucking it down. If I get soaked through and nobody wakes up I will be even more pissed off," she sighed. "Even worse - the wine is indoors. I'm supposed to be taking all the kids to archery tomorrow. I might bring an arrow home to ram up her arse."
"Aren't you worried about getting darked on?" gasped Bluefrog26.
"If you don't get in the house the slugs will come and get you in the night," warned notangelinajolie gravely.
"Slugs don't scare me," said Keith bravely. "The fact that I am just a few feet from a spooky ancient wood does a little bit though. Monks are rumoured to haunt them - I've never seen them but my uncle claims to have. The woods are also full of massive holes and tunnels, all fenced off. Nobody really knows what they are for, but they’re full of rare bats."
"Well you've got the full set there: dark woods, monks, bats, tunnels, torrential rain," nodded AdaColeman. "Scooby Doo will be along to rescue you shortly."

And finally, we leave you with the wisdom shared by CatThiefKeith and friends in the thread entitled "Drunken lessons I have learned".
"Do not blow out a candle with a mouth full of cheese and crackers. Generally, going backto your neih.ours for an extra glass iof wein is not necessaey. If yocpost on mn drhunk, hide tgread immediately afterwards. Smlhe and tje whole world smipes with you!" announced a suitably sozzled Keith.
"Sleeping bag races down the stairs hurt," contributed a remorseful AgentZigzag.
"Do not attempt Flaming Sambucas using a plastic shot glass, or put the flame out with the palm of your hand. It will leave a permanent scar," winced ClothesPegs.
"Don't let yourself be persuaded by mutual friends that it will be ok for you to go to your ex-boyfriend's house party," cringed Sophita. "You will see him kissing a girl, and your drunken revenge master plan will be to go to his bedroom, sticky-tape all his boxer shorts to the ceiling, make a desktop display of his athlete's foot cream and hair-straighteners, and write 'cunt' on his pillow in lipstick."
And finally, from Tapirbackrider's DH:
"Never go for a piss, forget to tuck yourself away, then todger-dance up the street singing Do Ya Think I'm Sexy towards a police car. Then, when confronted by the occupants of the police car, do not throw yourself over the bonnet, call them rude names, or vomit over yourself and the car."

All sterling advice, of course - and thank you, CatThiefKeith, for the many belly laughs and kind words you provided Mumsnet users with over the years.

PinkSquash Sat 26-Aug-17 20:53:17

The talk round up was really lovely MNHQ

SweetBabyJebus Sat 26-Aug-17 20:53:49

Copied and pasted on my phone from my email. Sorry for formatting isshoos and lack of accompanying pics.

CanIBuffalo Sat 26-Aug-17 21:08:37

Something in my eye.

MrsJayy Sat 26-Aug-17 21:09:32

I have just read the round up was so lovely and i lold she was hilarious

whirlygirly Sat 26-Aug-17 21:11:48

I've just seen this and am utterly shocked. I'm so sorry to read this - she was fab and I've always loved her crazy threads. Life really bloody sucks sometimes. Rip lovely lady flowers

Mandatorymongoose Sat 26-Aug-17 22:00:47

Well. Life, yabu. How dare you take CTK.

A funny and fabulous woman, I'm so sorry for those who love her and I know there are lots of them.

Sleep peacefully x

BitOutOfPractice Sat 26-Aug-17 22:10:26

Oh goodness how sad. Her poor family. I'm so sorry really read this.

RiversrunWoodville Sat 26-Aug-17 22:14:23

Genuine thoughts for her family and friends she seemed such a lovely person from her posts

Lynnm63 Sat 26-Aug-17 22:28:50

I don't have the talk round up email yet, did it come out tonight?

Oncewaswho Sat 26-Aug-17 22:32:06

I got it about 5.30 this evening, a lovely tribute.

Catzpyjamas Sat 26-Aug-17 23:02:13

Thanks for the Talk Round-up, MNHQ.
CTK was most definitely one of a very special kind. 🌌

DMCWelshCakes Sat 26-Aug-17 23:17:11

Thank you MNHQ. It was wonderful


Terrible outbreak of seasonal allergies around here.

TheHauntedFishtank Sat 26-Aug-17 23:30:30

Absolutely fucking hilarious, thank you CTK x

Jux Sun 27-Aug-17 00:28:43

Where aI read the Round Up? I used to get it but seem to have stopped so have just re-subscribed, but would ike to read this one asap.

SerfTerf Sun 27-Aug-17 00:36:00

It's just a few posts up, C&Ped jux.

SerfTerf Sun 27-Aug-17 00:36:36

(Yesterday 20:51, SweetBabyJebus)

Jux Sun 27-Aug-17 00:50:06

Thanks, Serf

ohtheholidays Sun 27-Aug-17 02:55:20

Just finished reading the round up,bloody hell Mrs you were funny,I hope all of those that loved you in RL know how much you'll be missed by so many of us on here.Xx

And I'm now another one with something in my eye.

WelshMoth Sun 27-Aug-17 17:20:02

Oh dear God.
I've not RTFT but Pacific sent me a link as I had no idea.

My stomach tipped over when I read the OP. I am genuinely sad.

Various NC'ing so my name may not be connected much but your posts always drew my attention.

Keith, I'm Going to raise a glass to you tonight. I will truly miss your posting.

Gone too soon. flowers

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Sun 27-Aug-17 22:14:44

She certainly was one of a kind.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 Sun 27-Aug-17 22:42:32

I just caught sight of this awful news on another thread and it made me gasp. I will really miss CatThiefKeith's posts; a lovely, lovely lady. Such incredibly sad news. Condolences to her family and friends. sadthanks

daisydalrymple Sun 27-Aug-17 22:42:40

catthiefkeith you will live on, long beyond your years. A true legend. Taken way too soon. RIP crazy cat/balcony/boat/tent etc lady.
Absolutely tragic.

paxillin Sun 27-Aug-17 23:17:32

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

QOD Mon 28-Aug-17 08:10:11

I donated on the previous one as did others, she truly was a spark of life
How on earth can that be just suddenly gone? ☹️

2017SoFarSoGood Mon 28-Aug-17 17:19:56

I've donated. CTK will live on in MN's gallery of most loved rogues.

Whattheduck Mon 28-Aug-17 17:29:27

Only just seen this i remember cattheifkeith
Very sad i will raise a glass to her tonight x

KnottyAndPistey Wed 30-Aug-17 15:50:25

Does anyone know when her funeral is/was? sad

If not right for the thread, please PM xxxx

SweetBabyJebus Wed 30-Aug-17 18:32:04

Yes, I will PM you.

KnottyAndPistey Thu 31-Aug-17 16:14:17

Thank you so much xx thanks

ohfourfoxache Thu 31-Aug-17 18:14:09

@KnottyAndPistey are there any plans for a Wooly Hug? I'm sure I'm one of many who would really really like to pick up our needles and wool in Keith's memory thanks

TheDailyWail Thu 31-Aug-17 19:31:10

I would too.

derxa Thu 31-Aug-17 20:11:25

I will say this I think that MNHQ email round up for CTK was pathetic.
Sorry I can't knit or crochet or I'd donate in a heartbeat.

MrsKoala Fri 01-Sep-17 18:34:13

I'm going to order some flowers and take them to the funeral. If anyone wants me to add their mn name I'm going to start a thread and just post on there and I'll add you.

I think I'll get YANBU in letters but if anyone has any better ideas please let me know.

I've already had some pm's so will add those names too of course.

Catzpyjamas Fri 01-Sep-17 21:50:13

That's a good idea MrsKoala flowers

MyPatronusIsAUnicorn Fri 01-Sep-17 23:13:33

I'm sure there will be many names on there MrsKoala, a lovely idea and will show just how many posters she touched/amused over the years. Truely a poster in a million. I remember her saying her life wasn't that exciting. Nonsense of course, she always had a brilliant story to tell.

mineofuselessinformation Fri 01-Sep-17 23:21:10

That's a lovely idea, MrsK.
Please add mine.

derxa Sat 02-Sep-17 05:21:39

Please add my name MrsK

MrsKoala Sat 02-Sep-17 07:26:52

Will add you all, thanks.

Here is the flowers thread if anyone wants to add a little message i'm happy to attach that as well.

Feeling sad. Been putting it off. sad

KnottyAndPistey Sat 02-Sep-17 10:26:03

Morning, re the Woolly Hug, we really hope so - we will be writing to CTK's DH via Facebook to offer, this was partly why we just wanted to find out when her funeral was taking place sad

Planning to write over the weekend, lovely @slithytove is going to be helping us contact him.

SavoyCabbage Sat 02-Sep-17 15:08:42

I just laughed at the YANBU flowers idea. Perfect.

PacificDogwod Sat 02-Sep-17 15:42:55

MrsKoala, you are a genius! smile

I'd be honoured to be added too.

Flumplet Sat 02-Sep-17 18:16:40

I'm so gutted by this. Keith and I had such fun one rainy afternoon prank calling her boss. She was a diamond and I'll really miss her.

derxa Sat 02-Sep-17 18:21:43

KnottyAndPistey i always tear up when I see your posts. You are among the better ones as DS likes to say. grin

kitkatspiderrat Sat 02-Sep-17 18:38:27

really sorry to hear this news, i loved reading her posts. she was so funny.
if anyone can link to her threads it would be much appreciated

forCtk Sat 02-Sep-17 22:28:24

Would love to raise money for Cat

QOD Sun 03-Sep-17 10:06:26

£1235 has been donated on the just giving I donated to - link removed now as outing but thought I'd let you know


CanIBuffalo Sun 03-Sep-17 11:36:50

Meningitis is VFU if you ask me.
So sad.

2017SoFarSoGood Sun 03-Sep-17 21:39:49

If not to late please add my name. Also happy to chip in. Still can't get my head around it.

ChippingInLovesWoollyHugs Fri 08-Sep-17 11:05:33

A little bump for those who still may not have seen it.

I still can't believe it.

Greenifer Fri 08-Sep-17 13:40:15

This is just awful. I had no idea. So very sorry for all her friends and family.

WellErrr Sat 09-Sep-17 07:57:35

Awful news sad

RIP CTK flowers

Bejazzled Sat 09-Sep-17 09:22:29

Only just heard about this. I'm so sorry about the loss of this lovely woman.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere Sat 09-Sep-17 09:31:53

Only just seen this - totally shocked. I had the pleasure of meeting her at a couple of the meet ups and she was so funny and kind.
What a loss. So sad for her family.
Hope you have a large beer waiting for you CTK flowers 🍻

SeaEagleFeather Sat 09-Sep-17 10:43:24

Oh jesus, just seen this. So sorry to read it. Unbelievable. Her poor daughter, I hope she has loving family who can be there for her and tell her about her mum.

Ah, shit


KnottyAndPistey Wed 11-Oct-17 16:03:55

I hope this is ok to post here, but the idea of a Woolly Hug came up several times on this thread, we are so pleased to say CTK's DH has accepted it and we are starting today. All help very warmly received, if you would like to join us, we are over here... Thank you xxxxx

PerspicaciaTick Mon 04-Dec-17 01:52:24

It seems that MNHQ have followed up on Bloomed's suggestion - this year's MN Christmas Appeal is raising funds for the Meningitis Research Foundation.
I'm posting a link, in case you haven' already spotted the sticky at the top of Active.

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