I slept with my best friend last night

[AVirginLitTheCandle]

and now I have no idea what to do

We haven't spoke to each other since last night as we've both been working today but I'm not sure if I should contact him first or should I wait for him to contact me?

I don't know what he thinks about it and whether he thinks it meant something or it was just a casual one night stand. I'm not even sure I know tbh

Should I mention this to him or just forget it ever happened and continue on as normal?

[AtrociousCircumstance]

You need to discuss it and be completely open about how you both feel.

[FuzzyBadger]

Is he a neurosurgeon on £100k?

[Whoopsieeeeeeee]

fuzzy

[ShowMeTheElf]

He's your best friend, so you should be able to talk to him about it. Something along the lines of 'I feel odd about last night; not sure how to feel, what you think about it or how to react. Can we talk?'

What do you want to happen? Did it mean something for you or was it just a one night stand for you? Will you be able to forget and carry on as normal?

[Finola1step]

Are you both single?

[AVirginLitTheCandle]

Unfortunately not Fuzzy

He's an electrician and still makes decent money though...

[legotits]

Depends if he was any good or not and do you want an encore?

[MargotsDevil]

I did that. 4 years later and I can safely say it's the best mistake I ever made it was awkward initially (for the first 24 hours or so) but then it became obvious that we'd both been waiting for it to happen. My only regret is that it took more than 10 years for us to get that far; we have certainly made up for lost time since.

Not much practical advice I know; but just wanted to reassure you that if it IS what you want then it can work out. Just time to be honest. Good luck!

[AVirginLitTheCandle]

It meant something to me, yes...but if he doesn't feel the same way then I will just have to pretend that it didn't

We're both single.

I might just text him later if he doesn't text me first.

[AVirginLitTheCandle]

I just feel odd now.

I have never slept with someone who I wasn't in a relationship with already and now I'm just sat here thinking wtf.

I wonder if he's feeling awkward today or if it's just me...

[ShowMeTheElf]

I married my best friend, after knowing him for nearly 30 years, us both marrying other people and divorcing before we even knew we saw each other that way.

[Milklollies]

It's not such a big deal OP. I think it's important not to put too much expectations on it as you already have strong feelings for this person. Let him breathe.

[NorbertDentressangle]

What led up to it? A fun night out, lots of laughter and chatting? Or was it an out of the blue fall into each others arms moment?

[SheWhoDaresGins2]

Ask him how he feels then take it from there. He might feel the same.

[toffeeboffin]

So the spark was there?

Sorry.

[Macauley]

I did that ended up married to him best thing is to be honest about feelings.

[SheWhoDaresGins2]

toffee

[SpermThroughASashWindow]

Do you get a wee tummy tingle when you think of it?

[legotits]

Bravo Toffee

[ImperialBlether]

I would be tempted to text him: "Does this mean we're engaged?" then sit back and wait for his reaction.

[IsItMeOr]

When Harry Met Sally is one of my favourite films

If he really is your best friend, then probably worth being honest about how you feel. And whether you still want to be best friends even if he doesn't feel the same way. Yes, it's awkward, but the potential gain is definitely worth it.

[IsItMeOr]

Imperial that's not helpful. Very funny though .

[SheWhoDaresGins2]

Oh I love a tummy tingle.

[ChampagneTastes]

Definitely do what Imperial suggests. Or do like Rachel in Friends: invite him round then open the door wearing a wedding dress.

[Pisssssedofff]

Don't text him. Let him chase you