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To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby" enclosed in *Baby naming ceremony* invitation?

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doubleshotespresso · 12/06/2013 23:38

So some close friends (who married in church), but now claim to be atheist are holding a naming ceremony for their 8 month old first baby in an hotel.....

The invitation is beautiful with a map, timings "event closes at 11pm"?

The gift list ranges from £30-to £300, all items for the mother, cosmetics, trinkets, jewellery, pampering breaks, personalised hand-bound stationery and photo albums...

Anybody know the drill for these naming ceremonies? Are we supposed to guess a gift for the baby? Or just congratulate the mother for deciding on a name?

I have read this a dozen times and am staggered beyond belief-DP read it and fell into hysterics....

My gut tells me to go along with Jo Malone scented nappies or something.

Somebody please tell me this is not normal?!?!?!

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WhiteBirdBlueSky · 12/06/2013 23:40

That is not normal.

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LoveBeingUpAt4InTheMorning · 12/06/2013 23:40

What the Jeff? Gifts for the mother?

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Flosshilde · 12/06/2013 23:40

Fucking hell. That is all I can manage to say whilst scraping my jaw off the floor.

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allinatizz · 12/06/2013 23:41

But did they put it in a poem OP?





Definitely not normal. Buy the baby a copy of Peter Rabbit and be done!

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Misknit · 12/06/2013 23:42

Not normal. Extremely grabby. Are they really people you want as friends?

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Nicknamegrief · 12/06/2013 23:42

Have no idea what to say, other than what a flipping cheek.

Would never occur to me.

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MammaTJ · 12/06/2013 23:42

No, I would have thought ot should be gifts for the baby, like with a Christening. How grabby and rude!

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MrsBungle · 12/06/2013 23:43

Not normal!

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pixwix · 12/06/2013 23:43

No way!

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DramaAlpaca · 12/06/2013 23:44

Definitely not normal. Very cheeky, in fact.

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doubleshotespresso · 12/06/2013 23:46

allinatizz no poem no.

Am sooooooo glad to read your responses.... I truly thought this is the rudest invitation I have ever received.

I would never have the nerve! Nor would I want to!

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knackeredmother · 12/06/2013 23:46

A joke surely? No one will turn up if they have any sense.

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doubleshotespresso · 12/06/2013 23:50

DH wants to decline just on the basis of this, I think I agree, though I think we would be causing great offence.

They are good family friends who believe it or not are normally quite fair and reasonable. This is totally out of character and a total shock. If the printing was pt so impeccable (& clearly pricey) I may have believed it was a joke!

Eeek

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doubleshotespresso · 12/06/2013 23:51

knackeredmother I honestly do not know what to make of it.

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BrianTheMole · 12/06/2013 23:53

Crikey. Gifts are supposed to be for the baby. I wouldn't go.

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EleanorFarjeon · 12/06/2013 23:53

I would not go, on principle.

That's the most outrageous thing I've heard in all the unboxed gifts/twee poems/baby shower type threads.

Shocking.

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Elquota · 12/06/2013 23:54

Unbelievable! Gift lists enclosed with invitations are greedy and presumptuous. Christening gifts are usually for the baby, so the same should naturally apply here. They're tasteful and thoughtful, not necessarily pricey, and they'll be something the guests have thought of themselves. Even then, gifts should not be an expectation but accepted with surprise and thanks if someone happens to bring one.

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cerealqueen · 12/06/2013 23:55

She's given birth to Jesus and intends to milk it.

Taking the piss. Yep, so grabby, they would literally take it.

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vintagecakeisstillnice · 12/06/2013 23:55

But don't you realise she is the first woman ever ever to have created life and so must be worshiped.

Hmm

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RikeBider · 12/06/2013 23:56

Crazy! We had naming ceremonies for our boys, in a community centre, and maybe half the guests gave presents - books, money boxes, money, clothes. Most gave a card. We didn't ask for or expect presents for the baby let alone me!

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UnrequitedSkink · 12/06/2013 23:57

Wow. Just...wow.

I've never even heard of a gift list being included in a Christening invitation...presumably gifts have been given for the benefit of the new arrival already? Did they have a gift list for that too?

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IAgreeCompletely · 12/06/2013 23:57

Are you sure it is not a joke?

Do they have form for this? What was their wedding like?

Really, really wierd Hmm

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Xiaoxiong · 12/06/2013 23:59

Not normal. And before anyone weighs in with something about imported Americanisms, it wouldn't be normal in the States either (at least not the various parts in which my family live).

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IAgreeCompletely · 12/06/2013 23:59

Oh, my Hmm face was that I thought the grabby friends were weird NOT the OP

Blush

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ChasedByBees · 13/06/2013 00:01

Hilarious! Grin

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