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We Believe You: we're launching our rape awareness campaign today.(530 Posts)
Today, we're very proud to be launching a new campaign. It's called 'We Believe You', and it's inspired by the many MNers who've asked us to speak out about the prevalence of rape and sexual assault in women's lives.
While we're at it, we're going to try to explode, once and for all, some pernicious myths about rape - about who does it, what it is, and whom it can happen to. These myths mean that many victims are denied justice: our survey confirmed that most don't report their rape or sexual assault, for fear of being disbelieved.
So the message of our campaign is in the title - we believe you. We hope MNers will get behind it, and spread that message far and wide - on Facebook, and on Twitter, using the hashtag #webelieveyou. And don't forget to let us know what you think here on this thread.
We're also giving a shout-out to Rape Crisis, the End Violence Against Women coalition, and Barnardo's - all of whom are supporting our campaign. They all work hard on sexual violence issues - either by supporting those who've experienced it, or campaigning for better prevention strategies - so do see if you can help them out.
Just bumping this to say, that if anyone starts a page on FB or elsewhere to further the aims of this campaign I will happily contribute
I im so happy to of come across this post i was raped on 1st december 2018 i reported it to the police who have treated me so badly i dont know what to do the person attacked me lives next door im living a consent night
If u have any advice for me as the police are being so laid back even tho i have witnesses they are refusing to take statements
One thing i will say i refuse to give up and im so happy that you guys are out there fighting for us women
If there is anything i can do myself let me know
what can i expect from SARC?SEX ASSAULKT REFERRAL CENTRE? IM NERVOUS
apologies for poor syntax and grammar etc...tired today
ok...i now know that what happened to me as a ten year old girl WAS sexual abuse...now where do i go to access support? i am seeing a MH professional in a few days for discussing further support with the Histrionic/Borderline PD symptoms and wondered if i should ask for support too regarding the abuse? i have had discussed before with my Dialectical Behaviour Therapist i saw some years ago the emotional physical and verbal abuse from a family member, though i feel i still need some more help with that. i wonder if the sex stuff compounded that? i don't know but i do know i' m feeling a lot of bitterness and confusion over it all?
I am fleeing domestic violence and I am either considering Cambridge or London as possibly I will be given social housing. Can I get some ideas suggestions about those place in order for me to make an informed choice? Thanks!
I am fleeing domestic violence and thinking of moving to either Cambridge or London as I am entitled to affordable housing and will be away from perpetrator. Have you any ideas about places where social housing is decent.
I have three children and I have just ended an abusive relationship. I am currently unemployed, financially in a very bad place and with a strong possibility of becoming homeless. I am told I need to move areas in order to get onto the social housing ladder. The current area we live in is very good my children love it. They are doing very well at school and have made many friends. I know they will get distressed if we move areas but the problem is I will not get a house if I stay on. What should I do? Stay in rented accommodation and in the same place or move to a not so nice area and get a place of my own. I don't know what to do!
BexleyFemale777 I am so sorry to read of your situation, and that somehow your post has gone unanswered. I hope you have found some support somewhere to help you with your ordeal.
I will echo your sentiment in asking all victims of abuse to please stay strong and have faith.
Perhaps this campaign can be reignited and extended in light of the current Inquiry into the covering up of high profile paedophile activity?
To all those who have suffered, or who are suffering, rape or sexual abuse, whether childhood or otherwise, I believe you.
Women are being sexually assaulted/ abused and yet still Met Police seem to ignore what is happening.
It is painful for me to tell you all that Met Police Lewisham Sapphire (Originally Plumstead Sapphire) pretended to re-open my case of serious sexual assault committed upon me by an owner of an Estate Agents some years ago.
The first investigation 2005 was a sham and that 'exact same Police Sapphire team of 2005' were later paraded on National TV in 2008/09 as being unfit for purpose.( The time of taxi driver John Worboyes being in papers.)
In 2013 after years of personal pain I went to Police with all the concrete evidence of the shocking way my case was handled years earlier. The Police CRIS report of 05/06 proved that Police had lied from day one. I had got the report from the Public Access Office. I also got evidence from my GP and local hospital.
However Lewisham Sapphire Police just pretended to re investigate my case, and I can tell you now that all Police did was re interview me on video tape and nothing else, not a single thing. It has been a total whitewash. They never spoke to my abuser.
They treated me and spoke to me as if I was a women of no intelligence. I feel emotionally raped by them.
The only reason they interviewed me again was to shut me up and say they had looked at my case again. In fact they did nothing except 'pretend' to reopen the case so as to justify themselves.
In the so called second investigation as I have already said they never even spoke to my abuser the Estate Agent again....and yet they said it was to be investigated as if it had never been investigated before. They even had a new Police Cris number. But in truth they were just fooling me and obviously had no real intentions of taking matters further or putting anything to the CPS.
Victims of John Worboyes recently won a court case against the 'exact same Police unit' and are getting compensation. But other women like myself who cases were not in the papers cannot find solicitors who want to fight for us.
I tried and I failed. I now have to try and live with it.
If I do wrong I get punished, but there is one rule for the poor and another for the rich. Nervous breakdowns happens for many reasons.
I ask all victims of abuse to please stay strong and have faith that one day happiness will shine in our lives again.
Sadly I probably wont be on here for a while. God bless.
I want to raise awearness of the fact 1 out of 100 rapes get convicted. Due to lack of evidence or whatever if rapists do not get convicted therefore they will continue to rape! Rape is rape people need to remember that. Don't matter if offender and victim were friends family no means no! Not enough rapist are getting convicted and it will stop people who have been raped coming forward due to lack of support from justice system ! Someone please help me share my points and views.
I was the victim of a serving police officer who since being sacked for the sexual assault on me, has committed more offences, and I am being interviewed again by the police in order to see if the case will this time go to court. Previously it was felt that the case was not strong enough.
Certainly if I had known how tough the process was, and the ordeal of challenging police interviews into my past, I would have never, never reported it. Everything I seem to have done in the past which has no relation to the assault has been twisted and thrown at me by the police.
They say the law has changed, and that police should be more understanding, but this is, in my case a complete farce.
Such a shame for women in these circumstances, as I am sure I am not alone to have had a similar experience.
Great campaign. Well done to all involved. The healing effect of being believed is very important to a victim's recovery. In order to make sure female victims' voices are heard, we need to resolve the issue of the top tier male dominated judiciary and police force. For far too long, sexual violence against women, in all its forms, has contributed to women being under-represented in the decision making levels of our society.
I'm finding hard to recover from being raped and beaten...what is making even harder is that the police said they didn't have enough evidence and didn't even take it to CPS. What can you do if they just dont care about this????
Bexley, I should have thanked you too. I also was in a terrible position. My ex bf, the rapist and abuser, was a conman who was volunteering for a rape and abuse line. I had everyone against me from the start, I got humiliated and degraded by the police and many ordinary people too.
Today, reading your post, I felt less alone. So that's me also thanking you for having posted here.
Big big hug xx
I am sorry, Bexley and sparrowmina. I believe you.
Dear Merlin Scot,
From my heart I thank you for your kind words.
Whe I talk to the public they do care and understand and it does mean a lot to me.
However when it comes to being listened to by the Police then I am humiliated and degraded by them. I am mocked and laughed at.
The Estate Agent i spoke of is very very rich ( probably a millionaire by now),and I am of no equity or social standing. When you are poor and have nothing then it does seem that you are an easy target to both abuse and dismiss within the legal system.
Now that legal aid is being taken from us, we have no chance of ever being listened to or helped. I am not young and my age now is a big factor in no one in the legal field listening.
I cannot come on here that often, but I wish you all well and hope that your lives will be healthy and happy. I will keep fighting for justice and this site has helped me to feel that some one cares about us and does listen to us.Thank you again Merlin Scot xx
BexleyFemale, thanks for posting your story!! And thumbs up for your courage in trying to get justice. You're not alone in that, justice was denied to many. Big hug
I am very pleased to have come accross this site.
I was a tenant in a rented property in Bexley borough. I thought the Estate Agent i rented it from was a nice and sincere man.( He owned the company) However he turned out to be a wolf in sheeps clothing. I was terribly abused by him and he committed a dreadult sexual assault upon me and i had to go to hospital and to theatre to be stitched up.
He was never prosecuted and even though I put an appeal in, it has been confirmed that it was never read. As for Keir Starmer he did not care that I had lost my appeal for the CPS to look at convicting the Estate Agent without it even being read. In fact Keir Starmer was not even bothered. ( My MP David Evennett and myself wrote to him)
This Estate Agent has now moved offices to Plumstead (Greenwich borough)and bought out a well known name there that he uses. He is still dealing with vulnerable people with children. I know for a fact he likes women who have children. I think it turns him on to abuse mums.
All this happened to me a few years ago and now I am still being abused by him as he shouts at me from cars, but the Police just do not care.
There are going to be young adults who looks for rented properties and I know full well they they will be looking upon him as a kind man. But once he sucks them into his charms then some of them will fall prey to his evil ways.
He will be an estate agent for a long time to come and those who may be in their teens now will in the next few years be looking to leave home and rent a property. I just hope that it wont be through him!
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Thank you for the campaign and support and your stories
I saw the item on Breakfast News and this is what prompted me to talk about what had been happening to me for the first time ever.
I am, today, exactly one week free from a 14 year long abusive relationship.
I feel like telling everyone I meet, but realise that nobody would ever have guessed what I had been going through. So I'm smiling at strangers in passing cars instead!
I'm unbearably sad for all that has been lost during this time but hope that I can make my future a meaningful and valuable one
Thank you mumsnet
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I just saw your 'OMG what were your first thoughts after you POAS?' thread
I'm not sure if this has already been covered on this discussion but my only experience of doing this was when finding out that I was pregnant after I'd been raped.
It's already been established that most women are raped by men who they know
In my case he refused to leave my home and I was faced with the prospect of having another child within a violent, bullying, repressive environment.
Being in a position where my attacker could have serious negative effects on my child from birth lead me to 'protect' it by having a termination.
It has taken me years to forgive myself for this decision, made when I felt trapped, shocked and terrified of the future.
A positive POAS result is not always a pleasant surprise
I wonder what help is available to victims several weeks after the attack when they may find that they are pregnant but are still suffering from the initial trauma of the attack?
I found it easy to give stock answers to my GP and doctors at the clinic in order to obtain a termination. I often wished that I'd been abale to find another way out or that the questions asked had been a little more searching
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