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Hopingfor2021 Sun 31-May-20 12:45:31

Hello! I’m roughly 7 weeks pregnant with (most likely) fraternal twins. Different sacks and far from each other. We saw heartbeats at 6 weeks and measuring just about right.
I have had 4 miscarriages (3 before heartbeat detected and one because of Turners syndrome discovered at 12 week scan).

We are over the moon to be pregnant but i am terrified of miscarrying. Can someone please give me reassurance? I had a baby in 2017 and all went well but I’m still finding it difficult to believe I might actually bring these babies home ❤️ Do vanishing twins normally occur before heartbeats? Or is it quite common for two heartbeats to be seen and then one or both of them to die? If you lost a twin after 6 weeks were there already concerns (growth wise etc) or did they look happy and healthy?

I realise there’s absolutely no point worrying as I can’t change the outcome. But it’s soooo hard ❤️❤️

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Quornflakegirl Sun 31-May-20 21:12:53

Congratulations! It must be such a worrying time for you flowers

I have no advice as my twins were discovered at my first scan at 13 weeks but I carried and delivered two healthy girls who will be 8 soon.

Wishing you all the best.

Hopingfor2021 Sun 31-May-20 22:08:29

Thank you so much, thanks for responding ❤️ That’s lovely, wish I only found out at 13 weeks 😅 Although I was already expecting twins from my first positive because of the extreme nausea. Still, you don’t really believe it til you see two beans on screen 🥰

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PowerslidePanda Mon 01-Jun-20 08:15:28


So sorry to hear about the losses you've had. No wonder you're nervous! But the odds are in your favour (only a 1 in 5 chance of vanishing twin syndrome, vs 4 in 5 chance everything will be ok) and the heartbeat and measurements are both very good signs.

I don't know the typical timescales, but I had a vanishing triplet and it was clear by my 7 week scan that it hadn't made it. I'd already been having miscarriage symptoms (had no idea it was a multiples pregnancy at that point, so wasn't sure if I was even still pregnant!) and the scan showed a smaller sac and no heartbeat.

Hopingfor2021 Mon 15-Jun-20 22:25:00

@PowerslidePanda thank you so much that’s really reassuring ❤️ So sorry about the triplet, must have been such a shock!

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Quail15 Wed 17-Jun-20 15:04:09

@Hopingfor2021 I'm in a similar position as you.

Im nearly 8 Weeks pregnant with twins after a MC in march (and many years of infertility and Ivf to get my DD who is 19 months). I had an early scan at 6 weeks which showed only one heartbeat and then another scan at 8 weeks which showed both heartbeats but put me a week behind.

I'm so worried that one or both will have stopped growing by the next scan. The stress is awful.

I hope you are doing well.

emma911030 Sat 20-Jun-20 07:28:34

Hi @Quail15 as much as I am fortunate enough that I can't relate to your losses and fertility, I can understand your worry with your twins. I am expecting ID twins I was scanned at 10+6 and saw two babies both hearts beating, they didn't measure everything due to the gestational age so have to go back (not until 14+1 unfortunately - I'm currently 12+2) but I'm so worried something is going to happen between now and then and I'm going to be walking around thinking I'm pregnant with two babies and to find out something has happened to one or both of them sad as mine are sharing a placenta I think if something happens to one it will affect the other? Although not 100% sure, they gave me lots of information at the first app 😳.
I'm constantly looking out for miscarriage signs and when I go to the toilet I dread seeing blood 😔.
I have my fingers crossed that everything for you will be just fine and you will feel relieved at your next scan! Sending positive thoughts xx

Quail15 Wed 24-Jun-20 18:33:16

@emma911030 thank you so much for your kind words. Unfortunately I started spotting at the weekend and stopped 'feeling pregnant'. I had an emergency scan this morning which confirmed my worst fears of a MMC - both of my twins stopped developing at 9+4 weeks ☹️

I really hope you have better luck that I have had. Wishing you all the best X x

emma911030 Wed 24-Jun-20 18:43:15

Oh @Quail15 I am so so sorry for your loss lovely! As much as I won't understand your welcome to message if you need to offload to a 'stranger' X

crazychemist Wed 24-Jun-20 22:33:18

@Quail15, I'm so sorry to hear that. How awful for you. I hope you have plenty of support to help you through this.

Joyce2020 Wed 24-Jun-20 22:38:56

@Quail15 I just came across your message and couldn't not say how sorry I am. What an ordeal. Sending love. Xx

RhirhiT Wed 01-Jul-20 11:00:08

Congratulations!! I found out I was having twins at 6 weeks due to a heavy bleed. I went on to have bleeding, some light some very heavy, up to 18 weeks and spent the entire pregnancy terrified!! But I delivered my boys perfectly safe and well at 37 weeks and they are now big bouncing 2 year olds going through the terror toddler phase grin It is a scary time, and you wont relax until you have them in your arms but there are lots happy endings for difficult pregnancies, so do what you can to be kind to yourself and keep hopeful even when it's hard. I will keep everything crossed for you, good luck with your pregnancy!

Jilljams Wed 01-Jul-20 11:02:56

I’ve got twins. I had a scan at 9 weeks and at this scan the dr told me it would be quite rare to miscarry after this point if everything seemed ok then.

Hopingfor2021 Thu 24-Sep-20 10:10:17

@Quail15 I’m so sorry about your loss. That is heartbreaking. Hope you have lots of support and will get your rainbow baby soon xxx

Thank you @RhirhiT and @Jilljams. That’s reassuring. I’m now 24 weeks pregnant and counting down the days til third trimester 🤞

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Guest1233 Wed 30-Sep-20 09:53:22

@Quail15 so sorry about your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

I had 3 miscarriages last year, and recently found out we are pregnant with twins. I already have twins from a previous relationship so i know what to expect. However, i totally understand your worries about this pregnancy. I am the same. We had a scan and I was 9 weeks 6 days going off first day of last period. Both babies measuring around 10 weeks, both with heart beats, although 1 looked stronger than the other.
I am now 10 +5 and so worried i don't know if i 'feel' pregnant or anxiety has taken over. I feel like i want to be hooked up to a scanning machine to check on them all the time.

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