I have DCDA twins who are nearly six months old and a 2.5 year old. The twins were a total shock, none in the family, no fertility treatment, just one of those things. From the moment I found out it was twins I was so anxious (in fact, totally miserable). Everyone said it would get better once they were here, then, as they got older etc etc. While it’s not as horrendous as it was for the first twelve weeks, the most I can say is at best it’s not awful. I still hate having twins. I don’t see how there is any benefit to it. I’ve done everything possible to give them the same as my first (same kind of birth, still breastfeeding them etc etc) and I try to get time with each of them but it is just so fricking hard and with all my attempts to bond with them I don’t feel anything like I did with my first. Today a friend told me she was pregnant with her second- just one baby- and I just felt so so jealous - for the joy of just having one baby at a time and getting to enjoy it. Instead of this perpetual firefighting circus that is my life where I can’t pick up one without feeling tense that the other is about to start screaming. I have a few friends who have also had twins but they all seem to be taking it in their stride- it feels like it’s just me who hates hates hates it. So I guess my question is does it really get better? And if so, when? Because six months in I find it absolutely miserable.
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