Have you decided to separate or stay together at school?(9 Posts)
What did you decide? And what age did you make your decision?
Mine are in a single for entry school so decision was made for us. If I had the choice, I would have kept them together.
We still have a while to go (b/g twins age 2yr 10 months) but we'd like them in separate classes if possible. Sounds minor but DS tends to do things for his sister to be helpful, but we don't want her to miss out on doing things/learning things herself because he's done it for her.
I separated them and decided from quite an early age as we have quite a large family and I don’t treat the twins any differently than I treat any other of their siblings. I don’t really think there is a special relationship between the twins over that with their other siblings, in fact one of the twins has a close relationship with her big sister. Therefore thought it best to just let them have the space to do their own thing unhindered by a family member in their class cramping their style
Identical triplets and separating them as the school has 3 form entry. They've been in the same room, albeit with different teachers, at their preschool and the other children still call them "the triplets" rather than their names (which bugs me) so I really want to ensure they're treated as individuals at school.
At secondary, I find that parents who insist on twins being together in classes usually have encouraged an unhealthy level of codependency and typically both twins end up appearing emotionally less mature than their peers. (Whereas twins who happen to share a registration group but have their space in lessons/are totally separate tend to blossom more as individuals)
In primary, I would imagine school size, number of classes etc would be a factor. I think the older they are, the more important some space is.
Our twins are just going into primary 1 (scotland). Loads of twins in our wee town, so was aware they were split up.
At a review meeting last week between nursery and school the deputy head said they split them up as everyone always tends to lump them into one, so one that's struggling/excelling isn't necessarily picked up. Parents evening just becomes about bob rather than john etc.
Mine are lucky this year I guess, due to other previous class sizes and smaller intake this year ours are going into one massive class with two different teachers so close by still.
My girls are going into year 3 in sept in separate classes for the first time through their own choice and I’m a bit surprised but very pleased. A year ago they would have been mortified at the prospect of this, but they’ve grown in confidence as individuals so much this year. They are both quite quiet so I feel like if they’d been forced apart before they were ready this would have been really counterproductive and upsetting for them. That’s just them though - all twins and twin relationships are different! The school is very supportive of it being the twins/parents decision whether to separate or not. I believe this campaigned on by TAMBA too. Schools should not be able to force a ‘policy’ on you.
We separated them as soon as they started school. THey were in the same class at nursery. Wanted them to be viewed as individuals rather than ‘the twins ‘. There weren’t any problems. THey had seperate friends, went to birthday parties on their own and did different after school interests. They played well together and separately at breakfast and after school clubs.
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