9 month old, pregnant with twins, hyperemesis and terrified!

[Worried67202]

Hello everyone,

I posted in another forum and got pointed this way.

I have a 9 month old little one, we struggled to conceive and I had to take clomid in order to ovulate, my husband also had problems. We were told we’d need ivf when I found out we were pregnant.

The first 6 months has been super hard, but we always wanted more than one child so we started trying early as we expected it to me a long road with potentially more medical interventions as the first was such a miracle!

I have recently been in hospital being treated for hyperemesis when they decided to do a scan. So it turns out not only am I pregnant, but I’m pregnant with twins. I feel so guilty but I just feel absolutely terrified. I am not a huge fan of the tiny baby stage and really started to enjoy my baby more from 5+ months. I hope that doesn’t sound awful, obviously I adore them, but the first few months are so hard. I am so completely terrified of how on Earth we’ll cope with 3 babies under 15 months ( and that’s if the twins are born at full term!). I of course feel happy too, but the unknown is taking over everything and I just don’t know how we’ll cope.

I’m hoping maybe there have been other people in my position who can tell me it’s all going to be ok?

Thanks for reading this and really hope I don’t come across as ungrateful.

[FellOutOfBed2wice]

I had two HG pregnancies- singletons though- so have nothing but sympathy for you. I got pregnant again when elder DD was 17 months. Pregnancy was very tough and I did become depressed even with family support. My advice would be to be kind to yourself, don’t do anything beyond what you have to to survive and take any help you can find. You will be okay but it’s tough.

[willisurvive3under2]

Hi,

I don't have experience yet but I'm about to! DS will be 20ish months old when the twins arrive.

The first few months with DS weren't my favourite either - he was fussy, clingy and colicky. By 5-6 months he was a different baby.

It'll be hard - possibly harder as your DC is younger - but think of the positives. No jealousy as DC1 is too young to know/remember any different. Once they're all older toddlers, you can do activities that everyone enjoys. You'll be out of the baby stage very quickly!

Do you have any help with DC1? Could he go to a childminder or could someone come to your house for a few hours a couple of times a week?

I had awful sickness for 19 weeks with the twins (it wasn't HG as it wasn't constant but overall it was debilitating) and my husband and MIL were incredible. Now I'm 26 weeks and I have SPD, I struggle but I'm coping. One day at the time!

Congratulations, I've convinced myself that twins will be awesome, hopefully you will too!