I’m really not looking forward to this - is this unusual?

[Reiltin]

I have a 4&2yo and am expecting twins in July. All I can think about is his hard it’s goimg to be - the sleepless nights, missing out on things for the two kids I already have, having people in my space cos I’m going to need support. I’m absolutely dreading it. I cant think about anything other than the practicalities and it seems like too much work. Is this unusual or did anyone else feel like this too? (I’m hoping that I’ll feel better about the whole thing if I’m not the only one who felt like this!(

[allegretto]

Yes! I felt like that too - don't worry, I think it's perfectly normal. The people who are saying "oh how lovely" are the ones who aren't going to have to cope. It was fine though. Tiring but fine!

[moggle]

I felt like this too. My mantra was, it’s going to be shit for the first year - 18m and then it will get better (as they hopefully start to entertain each other etc etc ...). People said how lovely etc but i just smiled and ignored them.
Actually they’re better behaved newborns than my DD (3) and so far (only 11 days in!) it’s been lovely and having two tiny babies to cuddle is amazing. Of course it’s hard and I know it won’t stay like this forever (not least because DH is still on paternity leave!!) but there are positives even at this early stage.
I’ve come to the conclusion that it is way easier having twins as second or later born. I don’t envy those having them first!

[fanlight79]

Oh you are most definitely not alone there! I was absolutely dreading it, couldn't see any positives in expecting twins-only the burdens having 2 babies would put on our family. I was very resentful in fact, still only wanted one and did not enjoy being pregnant with them. A lot of people were very worried about me. They needn't have been. The moment my girls arrived 6 months ago everything just clicked and I have found them collectively easier than my firstborn. Find your nearest twin group-I've found having the experience of others in the same situation a huge support, it's so different to having one baby. Congratulations, it will be fine!

[womaninatightspot]

I've been there and I'll be honest the first year was pretty awful in a severe sleep deprivation way second year was tiny bit better now the DC are 7, 5 and about to turn 3x2 and life has gotten back on track.On the upside my DTDs are just wonderful and adorable and keep each other entertained nowadays.

I did not have help though if you do have any available just say yes as much as you can.

[Duckyneedsaclean]

Oh I absolutely dreaded it.

But in all honestly, it's fine. Mine are 13 months now, my older ones were 5&3 when they were born so not too far off your situ.

Just get them in sync, buy a mountain buggy duet, and it will all be ok!!