Hi, I have 10 week old twin girls and a 3 year old boy. My OH returned to work full time from about 6 weeks and my 3 year is in playschool 3 days a week during term time. Our only help is OHs parents who are 71 and 69. They have took on my OHs car so they can easily get our house to help. The plan was that on Tuesday and Thursdays when my son is off playschool they would come to our house and stay the day to help out with the twins. They started coming early about 7am to beat the traffic (we never told them to do this) then would stay until about 6pm. They did this for about 3 weeks then last week my MIL came down with D&V and so sent FIL round on his own on the Thursday. She then started with what she said was sciatica. She txt my OH saying that getting up so early on Tuesday and Thursday was tiring her out. My OH told her that she didnt need to get here so early. Anyway I said I would start putting DS into Playschool on the Tuesday so it would only be Thursdays I needed help. I did that this week but then yesterday my DS had his Playschool nativity which the in laws came to. They briefly came to the house after it then left without saying anything about coming today. I was really confused as they knew DS was off playschool. Anyway last night my MIL txt my OH saying he could have his car back if he wanted and in the future we could drop DS off at theirs if we want them to look after him. Nothing has been mentioned about coming here anymore to help out. My OH has said it would be nice if they would watch the twins so I could take DS out and also get some fresh air myself as I am bored of sitting in. She replied questioning whether I’m getting PND! She then suggested I could drop the twins at hers and take DS out. They seem to be edging at us having the car back so they don’t have to drive over here (only 15 min journey no traffic) when the whole arrangement was that they have the car for 12 Months whilst I’m on mat leave so I’m not running around everywhere.
Sorry for the long post but I’m just annoyed about the change of plans and I feel a bit let down to be honest. I know they’re not spring chickens but we had an arrangement. I’d rather them just be straight with me and tell me if they can’t do it. It’s hard enough as it is but expecting me to traipse about with twins, a 3 year old and all their stuff I think is a bit naughty of them.
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Bambi1980 · 14/12/2017 07:54
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