I'm struggling at bedtime lately. We did go through a phase where i put the twins down in their cots and not a peep and then they'd be asleep, then I had some precious time with older sister. Lately this routine has changed and we've gotten into singing / rocking etc. There have been lots of changes to our routine so I can't pinpoint one exactly. With my first child I couldn't bear to let her cry and would sit for hours sometimes cuddling and singing to sleep. It now breaks my heart and makes me feel incredibly guilty that I can't do that for 2&3 when they cry. If I pick up and cuddle twin 1 and the other starts crying then my options as I see them are - carry on cuddling twin 1 and listen to the crying of twin 2 until 1 is asleep then I can see to 2(but sometimes 1 stays awake ages and 2 gets hysterical) ; cuddle 1 until calm then put 1 down and go see to 2 ( but sometimes 1 cries as soon as I put down so I have both crying and ping pong between them according to whichever is the most hysterical) ; ignore both; put both in double buggy and take for a walk ( sometimes it's late/ rainy/ not an option at all). Meanwhile older sibling has to hear the screaming/ keep occupied / try to "help" which may become an option as she gets older but I still have reservations about trusting her unsupervised with a crying younger sibling for any length of time. So my problem is having a consistent strategy that I'm comfortable with. In a perfect world I'd have a routine that worked all the time. I'm trying to get into a regular routine of putting each in their own bed and then just hoping only one is unsettled at a time. Has anyone else been in the same situation ? Any helpful advice ? I'm looking into controlled comforting etc , any experience of that working with twins ?
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