What do you mean BOTH heartbeats are clear?!(15 Posts)
Had an early pg scan this afternoon as I had some bleeding overnight. Had got myself fully prepared to hear that the baby was not ok/not there or whatever.
Was NOT prepared in the slightest to hear that there are 2 in there. I have a 15month old dd. How the * am I going to cope? Dd will be 22 months when these 2 arrive. 3 under 2. How???
Someone come and tell me it'll be ok please
This is exactly what happened to me! Early bleeding + history of miscarriage -> scan showed one empty sac plus two heartbeats. At the time I received this news, DS1 was 3y11m and DS2 was 22m. I managed and you will be fine too.
It'll be ok!! My DD was nearly 19 months when my twins were born. So i had 3 under 2 for nearly 6 months
Rope in all the help you can get, if anyone asks if they can help say yes, even if you only ask them for some meals for your freezer. Any offers of entertainment for your DD, buggy pushing for your dts is great. Isofix for the babies seats helps me get out
slightly faster. We do loads too, all our old playgroups, park, day trips. Life is not over. The only thing we can't/ haven't done as a family is swimming.
Mine are nearly 9 months and I've hit a hard patch but that's because one Just. Does. Not. Sleep. But despite all that, I still feel lucky and blessed every time I look at them, and my DD with them. It's fabulous.
Congratulations! I had three under two too (though only for a few days!). It will be fine - more than fine in fact. Mine are 10 and 8 now, so I can say that with some authority. Prioritise feeding everyone (including yourself) and then keeping everyone clean. If you manage to do anything else (like read them a story, do a bit of washing) you're doing amazingly well. Try to get out of the house every day for a bit of fresh air - we used a double buggy and a sling, then switched to double buggy plus buggy board. Let people help - but remind them that cuddling a baby isn't really helping. Bringing home-cooked food is helping. Putting on the washing machine or filling the dishwasher is helping.
Try to enjoy it and don't feel guilty that you only have one pair of hands. My three are amazingly close now and life is pretty easy because they more or less go to the same places and enjoy the same sort of things.
Ooohh.Many congrats. I had it the other way round, the twins were 22 months when younger dd was born. It is do-able, you'll be fine.
Best advise is just to plan ahead. Organisation is the key, from feeding times to what goes into the changing bag. If it is all planned well it's a doddle, IME it just takes a little time before it becomes second nature to be very organised, then all is
not so manic calm .
Love it sinking we're both there with the food!!!
So glad you say its easy (easier) now, I shall hope for similar as though there are many more enjoyable, good parts now, I certainly wouldn't ever say it was easy yet!!
It is hugely easier, Dreaming - and it will be for you too. I think it got better sooner than I thought it would - around two and four - and now I look back and wonder how I did it. It's completely doable though. Just make sure you put yourself first occasionally and NEVER feel guilty for snatching a few minutes for yourself when you need to. It will keep you sane. Ipod, decent food and fresh air is what you need - and when you can't get that, chocolate and wine are good too.
Congratulations!! That's the same way I found out - the GP told me he thought I was having a miscarriage - but sent me for an emergency scan to rule out ectopic pregnancy - at 5 weeks. The scan showed 2 pregnancies! DD was 15 months at the time, she was with us at the scan and I remember the midwife saying to her "you've got an exciting adventure ahead of you little baby" - as I lay there in shock
Our twins are due in 3 weeks. DD has spent a lot of time watching C-Beebies in bed with me lately as I've been too big too move, but other than that she is fine. She has recently got into baby dolls so I have bought her some baby twins & a pram for Christmas - hopefully they will keep her busy when the real twins arrive. We also have a seven year old who is keen to help when he gets in from school.
Good luck, hopefully I will be able to come back and tell you that twins & a 22 month old are quite easy < wishful thinking >
P.S - I bought a ABC triple buggy (a normal double but with a toddler seat on top) soon after I found out. I am hoping it will be a lifesaver as I plan to get out of the house every day, even if it's just a little walk to the park. I got the buggy second-hand for a good price as they are expensive new. Once I bought the buggy I started to feel a bit more in control - DD has tried out the top seat & was very enthusiastic about it.
It will be okay - IMHE twins are easier than single child in many ways - logistically tricky and constant but not unpleasant. from about 10mo they were making each other giggle more than I've ever heard a baby giggle - so much fun and so many cute times ahead of you, all the hard work will be worth it xx
Congratulations. My son was 15 months when my twins were born :-) tiring but all doable just don't put too much expectation on yourself!! I had the abc Everest too and yes it's a life saver. When my twins were 2 I got pregnant again and it was twins again!! So I had 5 in 4 years
Congratulations! What a lovely Christmas present!
Our DD was 19 months when DTSs arrived. It was busy, but great fun too. Take any help people offer, do not worry about housework, just make sure everyone gets fed! Get an EZ2nurse pillow (whether ff or bf) as you can then feed both babies at once. We found feeding & changing both at the same time worked for us.
DD is now 4, DTS have just turned 3 & we now have DS3 (5 months), so it wasn't that busy to put us off having another! They are all great company for each other too.
Congratulations! Opposite way around here, I have 21 month old twins and a 7 week old baby. Try not to panic, you will cope because you have to! Will second the prioritise every one being fed, organisation is the key, make sure your changing bag is always ready to grab. We haven't bothered with a triple pushchair as we already spent almost a grand on our double, so are using this with a sling which will hopefully take us through until one of the boys can use a buggy board. However, given that you will need to buy a new pushchair anyway might be worth investing in the everest triple (I think they have a good resale value on ebay).
It will be ok, my twins were born when my dc3 was 10 months old I now have 3 under 2!!
The initial shock is huge but you will be fine
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