Thought this from the current Mixed Media Watch newsletter might be of interest:
?AWFUL OPINION PIECE ON BLACK MEN WHO DATE INTERRACIALLY?
CVK, January 06, 2005
Ugh. I don?t even know where to start with this one. A columnist on the Electronic Urban Report has written an opinion piece called ?Black Women?The Dead Breed?? It?s the typical ?not that I?m against black men dating outside their race, but...? article, only this one is on OVERDRIVE.
?This is not to imply that it is wrong to be attracted to and/or fall in love with a person of a different race. I?m all for colorblind love. It does, however, become an issue for our communities when so many of us pass it off as preference, not realizing that in its trendiness, interracial relationships become much deeper than mere preference. I often hear lots of brothers attempting to justify their mixed mating with that cliched excuse that all black women have bad attitudes and are gold-diggers. Lorena Bobbitt, a white woman, had an attitude when she chopped off her husband?s penis. Clara Harris, another white woman, had an attitude when she used her husband as a speed bump, rolling over him repeatedly in her Benz. Then there?s the HMIC (Head Mexican In Charge) of gold-digging, Vanessa Bryant. Any woman who?s able to get a $4 million ring out of her man either is married to a damn fool or is a well-trained gold-digger. In her case, it?s both.
So the worn-out excuses are nothing more than cow manure roasting in the hot sun. Could the real reason for some of these unions be that these women are considered passive and more easily controlled than Black women are? I recently got an email with a picture of a white lady sucking on some brother?s callused, bunioned feet. Dude?s feet were so crusty, hot coals miraculously grew legs and started running when they saw him coming. I?d like to think that the photo was the occasional email fluke and that no woman- white, black or otherwise could be that docile. On the other hand, there?s the strong probability that the attraction between brothers and white women has to do with the forbidden fruit theory. As with anything that is forbidden, we?d give anything to have it.?
Columnist Carlandrea is quick to criticize the ?hateful myths? perpetuated by the media about black women being ?neck-rolling, sharp-tongued, multi-colored hair coons or the simple video whore worthy of a quick lay but never a commitment.? But she shows NO HESITATION whatsoever in perpetuating racial stereotypes about other women. ?Head Mexican In Charge?? Passive and easily-controlled white women? And then to top it all off, she seems to suggest that interracial relationships are ok only if the non-black partner is a hottie:
"But if brothers are going to date outside the race, they should at least strive for the best of the bunch...a Catherine Zeta-Jones or Charlize Theron type. So many of them come back to the hood with Roseanne or Ally McBeal on their arms looking all proud, cheesing like chesscats, not realizing that nobody is really impressed. Trust me, if I date white, the guy is going to be straight up eye candy, I?m talking a Brad Pitt clone from head to toe."
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franch · 16/02/2005 13:26
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