"His skin is much lighter than I expected."
Someone said this to me today about my nine month old DS.
This has happened quite a few times since DS was born and it's starting to bother me now. He is very fair and his hair is dark brown. I am white and my husband is asian. I really don't know how to handle it. I don't want to make people feel awkward as I'm sure that they mean no malice. They are just unthinking, or naive.
I feel that these people wouldn't make a comment such as "She's less ginger than I expected," to a red haired mother. Or even "He's much thinner than I expected," to an overweight parent. Why do they feel it's OK to say it to me?
What worries me is that DS is going to get similar comments throughout his life. I hate the thought of that.
Please help me with what to say to these people.
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How do I tell them that what they're saying is upsetting me?
bristols · 25/05/2007 21:38
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