Are any of you without or are estranged from your families. Entering a multicultural union plus other things have left us rather isolated. I wondered how others cope. Do you belong to some sort of spiritual group that helps you?
ednamode . I'm still angered and amazed that these sort of attitudes exist.
My mother is white English and my father was Anglo Indian. They met/married in the very early 60s and I know my grandmother was less than welcoming to my dad. Not openly but subtlely so (isn't it often the case?!).
Tbh what they did was to form friendships with other couples who were in similar situations, and those friends are still there 45 odd years later! It might have been easier for them as this was in London (initially).
Is there a multicultural community where you live? Or anything approaching it?
I grew up in apartheid south africa, and can't tell which was worse: there, or modern UK where same attitudes exist without the laws to back them up. It's up to use to NOT entertain the ignorance of others, but to also raise our children to expect more from the societies they grow up in. Am in multicultural union, too, and have had to 'weed out' those folk who prefer not to accept that blood is the same colour beneath the skin.
Yes it is a multi-c community so you would think that it should be easy, not being ungrateful but often married people have many family commitments and often when i would just like to chat and a drink they are busy seeing family husband etc etc. A pseudo family sounds great