poetry on miscarriage

[trollprincess]

Hi,
Does anyone have more poems or phrases for miscarriage?- I read the one posted by annainmanchester, cried buckets, then felt a lot better. I had a mc in March, and don't yet know how to cope. Poetry may help.
Thanks

[KemalsStilletto]

hi troll, how are u feeling today? i have a few links to miscarriage poems if you want me to post them?

[swiperfox]

I like this....

'An Angel wrote in the book of life, my baby's date of birth. Then whispered as she closed the book 'Too beautiful for Earth'

[KemalsStilletto]

awww swiper

[trollprincess]

Hi Kamalsstilleto, please do post the links. Love swiperfox's line. It made me cry all over again. Think I am just allowing myself to think about what happened, after months of telling everyone I'm fine and that it was no big deal - could be because due date is coming up.

[KemalsStilletto]

Hi TrollPrincess, how are you feeling? Sorry I couldnt get back any sooner.

Here is a \link[http://www.geocities.com/dmrader/POEMS.html\lovely site} by a mother herself. Has quite a few lovely poems on.

HTH

Take care xxx

[KemalsStilletto]

sorry, site shuld be here now!

[KemalsStilletto]

this one in particular I love...

A MOTHER HAS A BABY, THIS WE KNOW IS TRUE.
BUT GOD, CAN YOU BE A MOTHER, WHEN YOUR BABY'S NOT WITH YOU?
YES, YOU CAN, HE REPLIED WITH CONFIDENCE IN HIS VOICE.
I GIVE MANY WOMEN BABIES, WHEN THEY LEAVE IS NOT THEIR CHOICE.
SOME I SEND FOR A LIFETIME; AND OTHERS FOR A DAY
AND SOME I SEND TO FEEL YOUR WOMB; BUT THERE'S NO NEED TO STAY.
I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS, GOD, I WANT MY BABY HERE.
HE TOOK A BREATH AND CLEARED HIS THROAT; AND THEN, I SAW A TEAR.
I WISH I COULD SHOW YOU, WHAT YOUR CHILD IS DOING TODAY.
IF YOU COULD SEE YOUR CHILD SMILE WITH OTHER CHILDREN AND SAY.
"WE GO TO EARTH TO LEARN OUR LESSON'S OF LOVE AND LIFE AND FEAR,
MY MOMMY LOVED ME OH SO MUCH, I GOT TO COME STRAIGHT HERE...
I FELL SO LUCKY TO HAVE A MOM, WHO HAD SO MUCH LOVE FOR ME
I LEARNED MY LESSON VERY QUICKLY, MY MOMMY SET ME FREE.
I MISS MY MOMMY OH SO MUCH; BUT I VISIT HER EACH DAY.
WHEN SHE GOES TO SLEEP, ON HER PILLOW IS WHERE I LAY
I STROKE HER HAIR AND KISS HER CHEEK, AND WHISPER IN HER EAR.
MOMMY, DON'T BE SAD TODAY, I'M YOUR BABY AND I'M HERE."
SO, YOU SEE, MY DEAR SWEET ONE, YOUR CHILDREN ARE OKAY
YOUR BABIES ARE HERE IN MY HOME; AND THIS IS WHERE THEY'LL STAY.
THEY'LL WAIT FOR YOU WITH ME, UNTIL YOUR LESSON IS THROUGH
AND ON THE DAY THAT YOU COME HOME; THEY'LL BE AT THE GATES FOR YOU.
SO, NOW YOU SEE WHAT MAKES A MOTHER, IT'S THE FEELING IN YOUR HEART
IT'S THE LOVE YOU HAD SO MUCH OF; RIGHT FROM THE VERY START.
THOUGH SOME ON EARTH MAY NOT REALISE YOU ARE A MOTHER
THEY'LL BE UP WITH ME ONE DAY; AND YOU KNOW YOU'RE THE BEST ONE.

[trollprincess]

Thanks KS. I loved this one too.


FOOTPRINTS

HOW VERY SOFTLY YOU TIPTOED INTO MY WORLD
ALMOST SILENTLY,
ONLY A MOMENT YOU STAYED;
BUT WHAT AN IMPRINT YOUR FOOTSTEPS
HAVE LEFT UPON MY HEART.

[wishingchair]

Hi Trollprincess. So sorry you went through this. I m/c in Feb and my due date was July. Same as you, felt OK, told everyone I was absolutely fine then fell to pieces on the day. And I still cry (esp when reading the poems on this thread)

I went to a christening at the weekend and we were given this prayer - so not a poem exactly. I'm not particularly religious but had so wished I'd had this with me on that particular day:

Every day I need you, Lord, but this day especially I need some extra strength to face whatever is to be.

This day, more than any other day, I need to feel you near to fortify my courage and to overcome my fear.

By myself I cannot meet the challenge of the hour; there are times when human creatures need a higher power to help them bear what must be borne.

And so, dear Lord I pray, hold on to my trembling hand and be with me today.

[trollprincess]

Aw, wishing chair, that is beautiful, though why was it read at a christening?- it sounds like a prayer for tragedy not celebration
. How did you cope with your dute date? God knows what I will be like.

[wishingchair]

We were given it cos DD wanted to light a candle (and therefore we had to also say a prayer!), so no, it wasn't actually read out!

Due date - I seriously thought I'd be fine. But I wasn't. It was made worse by my friend having her overdue baby on that date. For the first time I really had a feeling of "it's just not fair!!". I've found it's been a case of 2 steps forward 1 step back all along. Something happens and it knocks you for six. But the good thing is you never get knocked back to where you started. I think it's a really slow process and you don't get over it, you just learn to live with the loss.

We've now started to try again and I'm feeling really positive about that. When I miscarried, I thought I could never go through a pregnancy again, so that shows some progress I guess!

I think, have no expectations for how you;ll feel on the due date - you may want to curl up on the sofa and see nobody, then again you may want to go shopping with friends and treat yourself. I wasn't at work which helped, but 2 days later I was still sobbing at my desk!

Lots of love xxx

[trollprincess]

wp, i love your line - you never get knocked back to where you started - accidental poetry.
I have a friend who fell pregnant same time as me and she is due on my due date too. Though she had two miscarriages herself last year so I don't have the 'it's not fair' thing with her. She deserves this, though it must be infuriating when someone just sailed through it all. I think I may maybe keep working on the due date but give myself a lovely weekend away afterwards
Good luck, good luck, good luck trying again. I really hope it all works out for you.

[KemalsStilletto]

I can't stop thinking about Swiperfox's few sentences. It is amazing how a few words can be so touching.

[Cadmum]

I really like this one:
IF TEARS COULD BUILD A STAIRWAY
AND MEMORIES WERE A LANE
I WOULD WALK RIGHT UP TO HEAVEN
TO BRING YOU HOME AGAIN
NO FAREWELL WORDS WERE SPOKEN
NO TIME TO SAY GOODBYE
YOU WERE GONE BEFORE I KNEW IT
AND ONLY GOD KNOWS WHY
MY HEART STILL ACHES WITH SADNESS
AND SECRET TEARS STILL FLOW
WHAT IT MEANT TO LOSE YOU
NO ONE WILL EVER KNOW

[KemalsStilletto]

aww cadmum, that is so beautiful but . did you make it up?

[Cadmum]

No. I found it online.

I am not very creative.

[coyotegrl]

hi i wrote this poem
my baby is an angel
his name is alfie wade
ill neer get to hold him
or get to hear him cry

he was so special to me
and obviously someone else
who called him back to heavan
to start a new life there

dont think i will ever forget you
because you know i wont
daddy wont do either
he loves you just as much

so if you decide you want to come back
our arms are open wide
to you, a brother or sister
but no one could replace you
of that you can be sure
because your our little angel
whos name is alfie wade

[Wheelybug]

Here's one that MrsMcJnr found and posted - am sure she won't mind me linking. Its more about trying again but is lovely.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=1366&threadid=291619#6236277

Come and join us on the ttc after m/c if you'd like.

[EllieG]

Oh God just read MrsMc's poem and has made me cry at my desk

[EllieG]

Just read rest of thread and that's completely done it for me. Had to go to loo and snivel for a bit.
Cyotemum, that's beautiful.
Trollprincess - I MC'd in March too, and I still cry for my little lost one sometimes. All I can say to you is not to pretend you're OK when you aren't - let your nearest and dearest in on how you are feeling and allow them to help you, or cry with you, or hug you, whatever it takes.

[EllieG]

Sorry, cyotegrl x

[kezzabel]

All these poems are beautiful, I'm sitting here crying buckets.
I found out I miscarried yesterday at 6 weeks. I've got a 4 year old so I'm really trying to hold it together.............but it's hard.
The one about the secret tears has done it for me
xx

[JC155]

Seven days after my m/c, I saw the most dazzling and biggest rainbow ever in Tonbridge, Kent. While travelling on the underground home that day, I saw this poem which made me cry as I had nicknamed my baby ?Rainbow? very soon after I found out I was pregnant. The poem gave me hope. 18 months later, I sat on a park bench with my newborn daughter in a pram and I saw the same poem inscribed on the bench.

The Rainbow come and goes,
And lovely is the Rose,
The Moon doth with delight
Look round her when the heavens are bare,
Waters on a starry night
Are beautiful and fair;
The sunshine is a glorious birth;
But yet I know, where'er I go.
That there hath past away a glory from the earth.

[OracleInaCoracle]

this is my favourite poem. it will get easier with time x

[pickle78]

We went to see the hospital chaplain today about our memorial service for Ellis, she suggested this one, I think its lovely.

Authour: Mary Yarnell

Too Soon

This was a life
That had hardly begun
No time to find
Your place in the sun
No time to do
All you could have done
But we loved you enough for a lifetime

No time to enjoy
The world and it's wealth
No time to take life
Down off the shelf
No time to sing
The song of yourself
Though you had enough love for a lifetime

Those who live long
Endure sadness and tears
But you'll never suffer
The sorrowing years;
No betrayal, no anger,
No hatred, no fears
Just love, only love, in your lifetime.

x