Feel like im going crazy

[icclelis]

I had a miscarriage at 8wks when i thought i was about 14wks. Went for a d&c 10days ago. I felt fine after it and a few days later i just couldnt stop crying. 1 of my close friends just had her 1st scan all went well and then a colleague at work told me she was pregnant on my 1st day back at wrk since the d&c. I tried to be nice to them and say congratulations and put on a smile. All i really wanted to do was scream at them and shout its not fair! I just want to get back to normal but the thought of seeing my friend or having to wrk with my colleague makes me feel sick with jealousy. Is it normal to feel this way? I just dread being in wrk when every1 will be congratulating her. I feel like im being a bitch. When will the pain go away? It was going to be my husband and i 1st baby

[KaraThrace]

I am so sorry for your lose. Of course it is totally normal to feel this way. The pain will subside, you will have good days and bad days.
I had a mc in December. I found xmas and new year so very, very hard. Then I was focused with getting my period back. It has now been 4 months and I am still finding it hard.
I have a DD and the mum of her best friend is heavily pregnant and due 6 weeks before I was. I am finding it so very hard at the moment because I should be talking about my pregnancy too. Every time she complains about things I want to scream too. I would do anything to be about to be giving birth, I am desperate for the sleepless nights. I would love to be worrying about the size of my pram with a buggy board on etc.... But instead I am worrying about the idea of ever getting pregnant again. Something I am not sure I can do.
You are not being a bitch, you are mourning a loss and you are allowed to feel sad and angry.
It will get better. Enjoy time with your husband as he will be grieving too. Cry and hug. And again I am so very sorry that this has happened.

[mashedpotatobrain]

Sorry for what you are going through it is hard but things do get easier over time. I had a mmc at 16 weeks in december. I had to face people and tell them it was gone which was excruciating. One girl commented that Ididn't look pregnant for 4 months and when I told her I had just mc she carried on talking and told me tat she was just pg and considering a termination. I couldn't deal with it then. Then 3 months later she was going for an amnio adamant if something was wrong it would be terminated as I was going through my2nd mc. I have just mc again but I find I can deal with her and all thee other pregnant people better. I still find it hard to cope with the first loss I would have been due on 28/5 thatdate is getting closer and I hope to come to terms with it more after that. Take it one day at a time and allow yourself time to grieve the loss of a baby that was real to you.

[loopydoopy]

it is normal to be feeling the way that you are, you may feel like a complete bitch for this but it is normal. I mmc at the end of Jan at 10 wks (little bean didnt make it past 8wks) and it is very hard to deal with things like that. a friend at work is pg and there would have been only 7 wks difference between us, i work very close to her and it is very very hard even now to see and hear what is happening to her and not me, dont get me wrong i am very happy that all is well with her pg but it is so hard. if you have the support of your DH then take it with open arms when you feel like it (thats something i didnt have or have now with my DP) things do get easier, i cant say the jealously gets easier but you learn to cope a little better with it. Take care and sorry you are going through this xx

[icclelis]

Thanx for all your support just sorry you have all had to do throught this too. xxx

[upset0808]

icclelis I am so sorry for what you have been through but everyones right, you're not a bitch. I had my third mc went into work and in the canteen was a girl bitching at everyone that she found out she was having a boy and wanted a girl. At that point I wanted to go up to her and smack her, then say "at least you're pregnant!", now thats bad. However I have found out my mcs were due to 8 wk periods and was told to try baby aspirin, so I did and now have a perfectly healthy 4 mth old girl. Don't give up - it will happen!