Hi everyone
I had an MMC at 12 weeks in November and had an ERPC. It would have been my first child and was dearly hoped for. The whole experience was quite traumatic as my only scan was a private one which revealed the bad news, didn't give me a photo and then charged me £135 for the pleasure then the hospital who rejected me for antenatal care suddenly found it within their capabilities to rush me through for an ERPC.
I prepared myself to start trying again in Jan 2010, started taking the vitamins and so on. It seemed really important that I conceive again before the date that I would have given birth - this Saturday. the 24th.
It isn't just important to conceive again to ease the pain though. I've spent a good few months psychologically preparing myself for trying again and now really is the right time for me and my DP. in fact it's been the right time for since this time last year when we first began TTC.
However Saturday is coming around and I'm not pregnant again. At least I highly doubt I am. My period doesn't seem to be getting going - just a few little smears- and I have cramps, but a dozen negative HPTs in the bin so I doubt it's implantation.
And on an emotional side, I cant make sense of my feelings. I still feel so sad. I'm not comsumed with 'what if's and 'should have been's like I was in the early days but they do still creep up on my sometimes. I feel very alone.
I've booked this weekend off work as I know I won't be up for being around people. I just desperately want it to be over with, I want it to be Sunday already.
I know it's only one day but since remembering a few weeks ago that my (no-longer) EDD is coming up I've been unable to forget about it. It's been on my mind constantly but every time I try to talk about it I feel so choked up that I just end up clamming up and not talking about it. Even to my DP.
I've been thinking of what I can do with myself that day, maybe do something special to acknowledge the event but I'm not sure at all. Is this really a good idea or do I need to just buck my ideas up and move on?
Any thoughts or advice please? I would really appreciate knowing that I'm not the only woman who goes through this when the EDD comes around.
Thanks for reading everyone.
Lou xx
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MMC in Nov '09 - any tips on getting through what would have been my EDD?
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loopylou2 · 22/04/2010 21:23
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