Last week I went for my 12 week scan (v scared, as I had a mc at 6 weeks back in March) and the sonographer said "I'm afraid it's not good news..." I will never ever forget those words or seeing the picture of my tiny baby on that screen.
It had only died a few days earlier and there were no signs at all. Even on the scan day I was still very nauseous, swollen boobs, clearly showing a bump, extreme tiredness, all the stuff people tell you means you have a 'healthy baby inside you'
I opted for an ERPC as I'm afraid I couldn't bear the though of carrying my dead baby inside of me, or passing it and seeing it which scared me so much.
The first mc was so different - much earlier, never really felt 'pregnant', never got to a scan as I started bleeding heavily and this was the only sign something was wrong.
All the medical professionals made it clear that I wouldn't get further tests as I have to go through 3 in a row to 'qualify' for these. And that it is likely to just be two coincidental chromosome abnormalities ion a row. So I think I might look into being seen privately as neither dh nor I feel that we are strong enough to try to get pregnant and go through this again without being armed with all the facts. And because this mc was so different to the last one.
Has anyone gone through testing after mc's? What types of thing could be wrong? What will they test for? This was my third pregnancy - my first one was totally problem free and I gave birth to a beautiful ds (now nearly 3) with no complications. Can things go wrong , or not go back right after childbirth?
To end on a happier note, when we told ds that tiny weeny baby was no longer in mummy's tummy, he told me that it was high up in the sky and living on a star now. Which made me weep like anything, but helped me an awful lot.
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missed miscarriage discovered at 12 week scan. I need to know more that what they are telling me.
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vtiredmummy · 25/09/2009 17:27
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