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2nd miscariage

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ilovesprouts Sat 18-Jul-09 21:31:23

my dd had just had her 2nd mc in 6 months had to be rushed in a&e today as she was badley bleeding very bad pains in her tummy ,has to go back for a scan sunday morn why is this

wrinklytum Sat 18-Jul-09 21:34:18

Very sorry,Sprouts.

poor dd

luckywinner Sat 18-Jul-09 21:36:17

ilovesprouts it is so unfair. I am currently waiting to mc a second time consecutively. It's shit. Your poor dd. I am so sorry for you and her to be going through this.

lal123 Sat 18-Jul-09 21:36:33

sorry to hear your daughter's sad news. I had 2 mcs before this pregnancy (am not 26 weeks with everything being reassuringly boring). I don't think that many NHS trusts will do tests until after 3 mcs - 2mcs may just be bad luck rather than naything wrong.

How far gone was she? The scan on Sunday will be to check whether a full mc has taken place or not.

unmumsnetlike hugs to you

(by the way - after I had my second mc my Mum was very supportive - telling me that there was nothing I could have done to avoid it, that it was "one of those things" etc etc. MIL wasn't so helpful shen she was suggesting that they should be doing tests, that there must be something wrong with me - made me feel terrible...)

thefatladyscreams Sat 18-Jul-09 23:54:49

ilovesprouts - how awful. Hope she gets good treatment. Just to echo lal123's comment - I knew there was nothing I could have done to avoid miscarrying but it helped to hear it from others to reinforce the point. Fate sucks sometimes.

ilovesprouts Sun 19-Jul-09 17:26:53

shes had her scan and yhey is still some bits to come away ,they told her to to a preg test and if its still there it will have to be took away sadshes just very tierd and sad

ilovesprouts Sun 19-Jul-09 17:29:09

she now thinks she wont be able to have any kids ,she has a 2,7 brother ,who she loves to bits and she is like his 2nd mum iukwim smile

juuule Sun 19-Jul-09 17:32:03

Why does she think she won't be able to have any more kids?

thefatladyscreams Sun 19-Jul-09 17:36:30

If it's any help, I found some of the leaflets on the Miscarriage Association's website very useful.

luckywinner Sun 19-Jul-09 18:27:56

I felt exactly the same after my first mc. I think it is a completely normal reaction to feel this way. Your poor dd. She has just been incredibly unlucky.

Let her know I went on to have 2 dc after mc and a friend of mine had another 2 dc after 2 mc.

Nothing will make sense to her at the mo. The only thing she wants is gone and it is a really difficult time. You sound lovely though and I hope she continues to find support from you as mc is a very sad and lonely thing. Will be thinking of her.

juuule Sun 19-Jul-09 18:37:50

Does she think that she can't have any more children because she thinks she can't carry them or because she might need d&c to remove anything left behind?
Please reassure her that 2m/c doesn't automatically mean that she won't have children and neither will having a d&c.

As luckywinner says it is normal to feel like that. I felt despairing of ever having another child after my first m/c especially as I had trouble conceiving afterwards too. However, I did go on to have more children (more m/cs too. Including 2 in a row - twice).

It's understandable that she's feeling incredibly low at the moment. Do point out the Miscarriage Association site that thefatlady linked to. They can be very helpful and have phone lines if she feels the need to speak to someone.

ilovesprouts Sun 19-Jul-09 19:09:36

thanks so much smile

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