Aaah so sorry for your friend. What a lovely idea to do something for her. I've been there where she is and its horrible. If you can afford it, why not pay for her to have a massage or something? I would have really loved this ( I paid for one myself in the end). Recommend she has some reflexology too. Will help get her cycles back on track and tell her that she will be quite fertile after a d and c for the next few weeks. I had two and conceived within 4 weeks both times and have two lovely boys now as a result. Good luck to her and she's lucky to have such a thoughful mate.
I had an ERPC on Monday and thinking about it, here is what I would have liked in my basket, were you to give it to me to take into hospital:
- Definitely a trashy magazine - Definitely some chocolate - Some nice smellies - Maybe a DVD or something like that?
(I had to stay in overnight, so I asked DP to bring in his laptop so I could watch a DVD or two to pass the time. However, if she doesn't have to stay in overnight, it will be good mindless viewing while she's resting up at home)
Also, if she has an iPod, maybe you could make up a good playlist for her?
Finally, the massage idea is a brilliant one. I want to book in for one myself (and hope DP might treat me to it!) so I'm sure that will go down brilliantly.
Hi Viv. Sorry to hear about your EPRC. Hope you feel better soon. Its awful. This time last year I was also getting over one. Today I have a 10 week old baby gurgling happily in his bouncy chair as I type this. You'll get there. Go for it as soon as you feel up to a bit of BDing ( I hate that phrase!). It may pay off as in my experience of 2 EPRCs it has, and the same goes for friends who went through it too. Good luck and take care of yourself.Go get that massage!
On the whole, I'm doing okay. We found out that our baby wasn't progressing properly on 2nd July, so I had a good 10 days or so to get my head around what would happen before the EPRC. This was my first pregnancy and it's been utterly heartbreaking, but the support from my DP and my family and friends has been nothing short of amazing, so in that respect, I'm very very lucky.
The pregnancy was unplanned - DP and I are getting married in November and had intended to start ttc then, but fate intervened! However, over the last two weeks we've been talking a lot about what happens next and while we are concentrating on the wedding, we've both admitted that we want to start trying again as soon as possible. If it happens before the wedding, then great. If not, then we'll still have an amazing time and we can start trying properly after then.... Fingers crossed anyway.