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think ive miscarried

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bamster Mon 28-Mar-05 15:26:24

i only found out i was pregnant last monday and by friday i started bleeding. was 5 weeks. all i can do now is wait to go to docs so they can book me in for a scan. cant tell anything til after 6 weeks. im 99% certain ive lost my baby an although i should(and am)be thankful i have a 2yr old, im devastated!! i feel so low its unreal. just needed to unload my feelings as apart from dh i dont want to talk to any1 at the moment. thanks to whoevers listening....

Tinker Mon 28-Mar-05 15:35:33

Sorry to hear this bamster. I had a mc at 6 weeks, shocking how something this early can be so upsetting.

sparklymieow Mon 28-Mar-05 15:39:34

bamster firstly (((((((hugs)))))))

I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and its very hard to deal with...

hushh Mon 28-Mar-05 15:40:41

So sorry Bamster. I had the same a few weeks back - I was 6.5 weeks . Only myself & DH knew & the hardest thing was trying to carry on as normal with everyone else. The nurses at the EPU were lovely though. Hugs.

milosmum Mon 28-Mar-05 15:47:45

sorry to her- i did a test on the friday (after xmas) and started bleeding on the sunday- didnt even have chance to tell my husband. so when i started bleeding it was all a shock to him, we ve been trying for 1 1/2 yrs so its was awful. still trying though and always hopeful. i had no problems with my 1st. we concieved him first time after we came off the pill ans sailed through the pregnancy- just shows you how lucky we were... hang in there, i am.....

expatinscotland Mon 28-Mar-05 15:54:27

Aw, bamster! Big (((HUGS))). I lost my first at 8 weeks (died in utero) and had a D&C at 10 weeks.

Hope you feel better soon!

Spacecadet Mon 28-Mar-05 16:07:38

so sorry bamster{{{hugs}}} i had a misscarriage 2 weeksago at 16 weeks and although the preg wasa shock we were really getting used to the idea.

bamster Tue 29-Mar-05 13:49:39

thanks to all for your support. no matter how many weeks its just not easy is it?
the docs arent even going to send me for a scan as they say ive had a complete miscarriage. only if i get more heavier bleeding will they refer me straight away.
it is hard trying to put a front on things when no1 else knows. i just wanna curl up in a ball and hibernate for a few weeks.
hugs to all

Nemo1977 Tue 29-Mar-05 13:54:12

hugs hun
mc can be soo devestating. I have had 3 [2 natural and 1 missed] and it really does take it out of you.

dinosaur Tue 29-Mar-05 13:56:30

Sorry to hear this bamster. I had an early miscarriage in between having DS1 and DS2 - was terribly terribly upset about it and still think about it every now and again.

Best wishes to you.

sweetnats Tue 29-Mar-05 18:48:07

Sorry to hear your news bamster.... My partner and I had similar. We found out we were pregnant on the saturday... he was sooo excited called round and told everyone.. i did try to tell him not to as i was a little cautious as i had mc before. 4 days later i started to bleed. Its so annoying when the doctors are so casual about it. I had to wait a day for a scan, i bled quite a lot so i knew i had mc but the wait to have it confirmed was so heartbreaking. It must be hard for you not having the scan. I know up until that point i still didnt want to believe it and hearing them say it made it real. my thoughts are with you... its a very lonely time, even when you have support... {{{{hugs}}}}

helsi Tue 29-Mar-05 18:49:59

thinking of you. so sorry.

berolina Tue 29-Mar-05 19:37:14

oh bamster, I'm so sorry.
It is awful. Last summer I started bleeding three days after getting a +ve pg test. Went to hospital straight away and had a scan - nothing there, and the test was even -ve again already. The doctor was awful - looked at me like he could'nt understand why I was crying, asked me how old I was and then said 'you're young, you can have more'. It's so gut-wrenching - being up there so happy and then coming crashing down. On a happier note I conceived again three months later and am now 31 weeks.
Thinking of you - be good to yourself.

Hulababy Tue 29-Mar-05 19:38:57

So sorry bamster.

It is so hard, regardless of how early. It isn't just the baby/pregnancy that is lost - but also your hopes and dreams.

Give yourself some time to think and grieve your loss. Take care of yourself.

LGJ Tue 29-Mar-05 19:43:29

Oh Bamster, it is hard.

Just for the record my GP was wonderful, I MC at 7 - 8 weeks and when it was all done and dusted and I went back to see him, he looked me in the eye and said I am so sorry that you had to go trough this.

Started me off crying again.

Not saying that to make anyone feel bad, just pointing out that there are some diamonds out there.

mambamum Wed 30-Mar-05 08:52:26

Big hugs to you bamster, know exactly what you're going through my story was just the same lost my baby at just 5weeks and like you had to wait to have it confirmed by scan the pain is very hard, but I promise things will ease (although you'll never forget). Happily for me I fell two months later and now have a beautiful ds. Just let the tears flow freely babe you need to let it all go, I know you don't believe me right now but you will be happy again x

piffle Wed 30-Mar-05 09:42:45

Sympathies Bamster, I lost a baby to an ectopic in November, before then I had never realised how badly it can hurt to lose a baby so early on.
take care, rest up and try to think of brighter things

Arabica Wed 30-Mar-05 11:20:28

Sorry to hear your news, Bamster. I'm recovering from a recent miscarriage too, and it's been difficult, to say the least. But 6 weeks on, I am beginning to feel more like my old self again. I will never forget the baby I miscarried, but the grief is getting easier to cope with.

bamster Thu 31-Mar-05 13:32:45


i would just like to say this website is amazing. even though i havent suffered probably nowhere near as much as some of you have the support is unbelievable. thankyou so much.
love to all

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