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Article on Miscarriage in The Times on Monday

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MiscarriageArticleTimesMonday Sat 18-Oct-08 13:51:54

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BoysAreLikeZombies Sat 18-Oct-08 13:55:24

Thank you for flagging this up for us.

MiscarriageArticleTimesMonday Sat 18-Oct-08 14:12:37

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BoysAreLikeZombies Sat 18-Oct-08 14:14:39

Well I'm gonna give you a great big [hug] then

BoysAreLikeZombies Sat 18-Oct-08 14:23:09

there you go

MiscarriageArticleTimesMonday Sat 18-Oct-08 14:29:00

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BoysAreLikeZombies Sat 18-Oct-08 14:32:48

'ard as nails, me.

Lost two pgs myself , it's horrid.

[understatement]

Good luck.

LackaDAISYcal Sat 18-Oct-08 14:45:55

I'm sure it'll be fine smile

Well done for having the courage to talk to her about it in the first place; I know I couldn't.

And good luck with your ttc.

<narrows eyes and tried to think who you might be>

MiscarriageArticleTimesMonday Sun 19-Oct-08 13:01:13

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BoysAreLikeZombies Sun 19-Oct-08 21:17:01

Bump

TheBlonde Mon 20-Oct-08 09:26:26

I've looked but can't find it online
anyone got a link?

MiscarriageArticleTimesMonday Mon 20-Oct-08 09:29:42

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GeraldineMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 20-Oct-08 10:03:20

Here's the link

kizzie Mon 20-Oct-08 10:52:45

Very good article. Well done for bravery in talking. Hope it makes a difference x

MiscarriageArticleTimesMonday Mon 20-Oct-08 12:02:45

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LackaDAISYcal Mon 20-Oct-08 13:22:39

Brilliant article and good to see the results of MN campaign getting the publicity it deserves.

Photo is just fine, no need to worry wink and I agree you were very brave talking to them about it. thankfully my experiences were treated with sensitivity. Leeds is a good place to have medical issues.

susan's story...sad.

NinaMo Mon 20-Oct-08 15:11:29

Wow - I'd never even heard of mumsnet until today's article in the Times, and ouch, it hit hard, very hard.

Very good though - very recognisable.

And there I was thinking I had been the only one going through hell through the sheer treatment by medical professionals.

My story is long and still ongoing; although the child we lost has gained a pretty and settled place in my heart and mind, five years on I am still suffering the physical consequences of repeated medical mistreatment, and matters have yet to be resolved.

The story so far would be too long to tell here, but one day I will write it and publish it somewhere online for everyone to read.

The abridged version: though I've come to terms with the emotional side, I now suffer chronic pain and have become severely dependent on morphine to make it through the day, I've had restorative surgery twice but both times failed and now I have more pain and trouble than before.

This week I'll be seeing yet another new gynaecologist who will ponder over whether to operate me again like some of his predecessors, or to tell me to 'put up with it' like other predecessors of his...

...to be continued...

beanie35 Mon 20-Oct-08 18:10:12

thank you, thank you. At last an article about miscarriage that I felt I could have written myself. I have had 2 miscarriages in the last year. I had exactly the same experience with the medical profession. Been asked on both ocassions if it was a planned pregnancy?? Didn't even get an 'im so sorry for you' from either of the people who did my scans. I feel nothing but bitterness for the way I and others are being treated during what is already a horrific time.

neolara Mon 20-Oct-08 18:30:03

I've had three miscarriages managed through one of the hospitals mentioned in the article. To be honest, the treatment I was given was generally very good. The staff who dealt with me were uniformly kind - virtually all saying how sorry they were, taking time to explain what would happen in great depth and I had plenty of opportunities to ask questions. They seemed to have good systems in place to support people going through miscarriage (e.g. written info to take away about what would happen, phone numbers of specialist counsellor). And yet the article shows that not everyone who goes through a miscarriage at that hospital experienced that level of support. Clearly more training is needed. I'm very sorry for the losses that everyone has experienced on this thread.

neolara Mon 20-Oct-08 18:30:20

I've had three miscarriages managed through one of the hospitals mentioned in the article. To be honest, the treatment I was given was generally very good. The staff who dealt with me were uniformly kind - virtually all saying how sorry they were, taking time to explain what would happen in great depth and I had plenty of opportunities to ask questions. They seemed to have good systems in place to support people going through miscarriage (e.g. written info to take away about what would happen, phone numbers of specialist counsellor). And yet the article shows that not everyone who goes through a miscarriage at that hospital experienced that level of support. Clearly more training is needed. I'm very sorry for the losses that everyone has experienced on this thread.

deanychip Mon 20-Oct-08 18:41:13

veyr good article.
i have had 3 mcs, last one in March, had to sit sandwiched between 2 heavily pregnant women, receptionist came over and asked me what my appointment was for, i had to say that i was waiting for the "abortion pill" when i had another blighted ovum diagnosis.

first mc the dr was outside my room reading the Sun newspaper waiting for the results of my scan....then came in and told me there was no heart beat.
could go on, awful awful experiences, all 3 of them.

shazzaren Tue 21-Oct-08 07:42:28

Thinking about approaching my GP surgery to talk to them about providing a miscarriage support 'clinic' - early stages of thought but my god people need educating about it, and those experiencing it need support. I had first mmc managed like most of those experiences mentioned above, NHS blundering insensitivity, treated out of the EPU, terrible pain and misinformation about the ERPC. I paid nearly £3,500 to have the following 2 mmc surgically managed by a private consultant and although still paying it off it was worth every single penny. I was treated with dignity, sensitivity and felt calm and in control when I left the hospital. (also the private healthcare drugs are pretty good...).

Good article, well done to those who talked to the journalist and to MN for starting the campaign.

I have had 3 m/c and can say with certainty that the treatment by health professionals had a profound impact on my emotional wellbeing afterwards. My first m/c was so badly handled, it added to the distress that I was feeling anyway. The others were in different hospitals and I was treated with care and compassion. I recovered from them much faster.

mm1509 Tue 21-Oct-08 15:00:12

I would like to say very well done for all involved in this article, we have been needing, craving for something like this for too long. I let some family members read this and it was quite an eye opener for them so it shows how much this needs to be highlighted. Lets hope some of the recommendations are followed thru.

prplmnkfsh Wed 22-Oct-08 16:45:17

I read it and yeah... it was a little too close to the bone to bear. I experienced every single one of the things mentioned. The letters for midwife appointments weeks after a loss, the silent and painful u/s scans... i even had a concent form shoved in my face 5 minutes after being told my baby had died! I was in tears! I couldn't even read what I was signing!

I haven't had a follow up appointment, wasn't offered one. It's been 76 days and i've still not had a period. Hmm.

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