Friend may be miscarrying at 10 weeks

[tribpot]

All, hope it's okay to ask for some advice here, I have no experience of miscarriage myself.

A work friend is 10 weeks pg and has been bleeding / cramping all weekend. The earliest the EPU can see her for a scan in next Wednesday.

She wondered if she should try and get an emergency appointment at her GP tomorrow but I figure there's probably no point? She was also wondering about having her hormone levels tested but I think it's too early for them to have dropped?

Beyond that, how best do I support her? She's being very matter-of-fact about it at the moment, says it doesn't feel real. She doesn't want people at work to know. Unhappily a friend who has become something of a work rival is about 6 months pg at the moment (not unhappily for her, but unhappy situation for my friend, if you get me).

Still keeping fingers crossed things might be okay.

[SEBANDELLIOTTSMUM]

hi i m/c 7 weeks ago at 8 weeks.

if shes bleeding heavy she might be better going straight to a&e, i did and had my bloods taken and an internal, followed up the nxt day by a scan..
i know its only wed. her scan but the hours drag when your preg & bleeding.

i was very matter of fact to people when i lost our baby and cried in private. i tried to get over it to quickly.
my friend took me to one said & said it is a huge thing id gone through and should grieve properly.

be there for her in weeks to come and on dates like scans and due dates, people begin to stop asking how u are after a couple of weeks and you need support much longer.
sending my love. fingers crossed.

[tribpot]

Thanks for your reply and sorry for your loss too. She will go to A&E if the bleeding gets too heavy. Wednesday seems a long time away, even to me!

Hard to tell from one phone call and a text message but I think she too is trying to get over it (not that we know what 'it' is yet) too quickly, will remember what you said about scans and due dates.

[SEBANDELLIOTTSMUM]

hows your friend get on?