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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Anyone there to hold my hand....please.

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calsworld · 27/08/2008 07:57

I'm about 9 weeks pregnant and when I went to the toilet last night I was bleeding. This was at about 10.15

I rang the emergency number on my notes and they said to call out of hours doctor, which I did. I went to see her and by this time had been to the loo about -100-- times several times and to start off with the blood died down but I've had more again this morning.

Its not bright red, neither is it brown, but its quite dark red. There's quite a bit of clotty bits in it.

Yesterday morning and this morning I've had quite bad pains followed by a poo - similar to what I would normally experience during periods due to my endometriosis, and when I've been to the loo the pain has gone.

My tummy feels sore today - the kind of discomfort I've been attributing to stretching and growing, but its not painful, if that makes any sense. Doctor says I have to wait it out but has moved my scan from next week to tomorrow. I wish it was today though.

I don't really know why I'm posting as I know that no-one can tell me if the pregnancy is ending or if in fact everything will be OK, but it feels better to write it down.

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OracleInaCoracle · 27/08/2008 07:59

im so sorry, this is very frightening. can you stay in bed today?

SesQal · 27/08/2008 08:01

Cal - so sorry to see this. It must be really messing with your head. I know tomorrow seems a long way away but at least you're not going to wait another week for the scan. I know you know everything you should be doing but please make sure you rest up today. Do you have some chocolate and a good dvd or 2?
I wish there was something else I could do or say but am thinking of you and sending (((((((big hugs)))))))

keevamum · 27/08/2008 08:03

I am sorry for how you are feeling. Have been there and it stinks. Go to your EPU and ask for a scan today. Can't tell you if you are m/c. Bled like this for 2 m/c but then also during my DD2's pregnancy. I hope it isn't but I guess you really need to know. Best of luck. x

liahgen · 27/08/2008 08:03

this is miserable isn't it?

I'm sorry you are going through tthis.

If you have a healthy pg, then the bleeding, and such won't make a difference.

If you have an unstable pg, then staying in bed won't make much difference to the outcome i'm afraid. Try and keep occupied. Do you have someone to be with you in rl?

calsworld · 27/08/2008 08:05

I'm at home in bed, I've called work and said I'm not going to be in today, and probably not for the rest of the week, unless things turn around at the scan tomorrow.

I keep trying to work out if I'm in pain or not, does that sound stupid? I'm not sure if I am and I'm denying it because I don't want to be or if its just niggles and normal - but there is def. something going on .

I don't know what I'd do without MN.

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calsworld · 27/08/2008 08:06

I know staying in bed won't make a difference in respect of stopping things if it is going wrong (and I hope there's still a chance it might not be) but I have quite a stressful job and going in to that would not be good for me.

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SesQal · 27/08/2008 08:08

I know - MN is a real support.
Did mean to say as well that there have been many stories on these boards of people that have bled for a few days (and not just brown) who have gone on to have pregnancies that have stuck so do keep that in mind. It could be your little bean snuggling deeper causing the bleeding and the possible niggles/pains.
I will be thinking of you today. x

liahgen · 27/08/2008 08:10

no, Of course not, this is an emotional time for you, and you can do without the added stresses of work.

Rest up, make sure you drink plenty. If the pain becomes bad, please get someone to be with you.

Someone will always be with you on here.

I have been through this a number of times, I feel for you.

OracleInaCoracle · 27/08/2008 08:10

with my last few mc's i stayed in bed, not becuse i thought it would help but because it couldnt do any harm and it was good for me to know that id done everything. im sure everything will be fine, everything crossed for you x

calsworld · 27/08/2008 08:15

thankyou. x

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SesQal · 27/08/2008 08:18

Cal - on a few of my worst days, I sat in bed watching telly with my laptop on MN. Not only did it help with passing the time but also hugely with the support of others. I know I've said it but I really wish I could do something for you. Hope things don't get any worse today but if you are really worried (sorry, of course you are anyway) then do as Keevamum suggests and phone EPU and insist on scan today. I'm really hoping thought that the bleeding stops. Will check in on you later.

Diege · 27/08/2008 08:21

Oh Cals, don't know what to say but there's more of a chance that things are fine than not. I do know that bleeding at this time can be common as hormones are shifting to prepare for placenta taking over. Having been there myself (as you know)I think it's important to try and get a scan asap for peace of mind more than anything else - is there no way you can get a referral to EPU today? Not wanting to put you under more pressure, and it's good you have one for tomorrow, just know what the waiting is like. Without sounding flippant,watching dvds really helped me!
Everything crossed for you, and keep talking - I found mumsnet a real source of strength at this time.

calsworld · 27/08/2008 08:26

Diege, thank you, to be honest I don't know how to push for an earlier scan. When I rang the hospital last night they said they needed a referral for an earlier scan and that's why the doctor last night tried to pull it forward for me but said she couldn't get any sooner than Thursday.

I know it wouldn't change anything but at least I could start to deal with it.

My tummy feels fine again now, I don't want to go to the loo in case there's more blood though. I'm scared.

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tinkcantwaittofindoutboyorgirl · 27/08/2008 08:32

hi cal sorry hun
good that you have scan tomorrow try not to think the orst it must be hard

NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain · 27/08/2008 08:33

A&E, just go, they will scan you somewhere. xxx

calsworld · 27/08/2008 08:37

Won't they just tell me to go and see my doctor, at which point, I'll say, well I have and they'll ask if I have a scan booked and I'll say, yes, its tomorrow at which point they'll pat me on the back, tell me to rest and try not to worry.....?

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NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain · 27/08/2008 08:40

No, tell them about the scan that's booked for tomorrow, but you have bled more since it was booked, you've had pain, and you just can't wait till tomorrow, none of it is lies, and the harder you stamp your foot the more likely they are to scan you sooner.

Either that or try and get a private scan somewhere today?

You can't wait till tomorrow like this, it is worse than torture.

Rhonds · 27/08/2008 08:46

Please go to A&E and they will help find someone to scan you today, I have experience of this and they don't turn you away unless they have no option.
I hope everything is fine and I'll be thinking of you xx

Diege · 27/08/2008 08:47

Oh Cals, I really feel for you . You could maybe contact the midwife and see if she can ring for a referral? It's stressful in itself trying to get a referral though, but maybe worth a phonecall? My e-mail's [email protected] if you fancy a chat.
Fingers crossed though eh - it's certainly very common to bleed like this in pregnancy, as so many on mumsnet will attest to

calsworld · 27/08/2008 08:53

OK....just following though on the A&E theory...how do I manage the fact that maternity is at one hospital and A&E is at another?

I think I'm OK...the more I read the better I'm feeling - successful stories of bleeding and even some clots still resulting in a successful pregnancy.

And if it goes the otherway, I just don't want it to be too painful but everything I've read indicates its no worse than period pain (I really hope this is right) and I've been scared about what 'matter' I will actually pass out but it seems it will be like a heavy period and I think I can handle that.

I don't feel sad that I'm possibly losing a baby, I feel sad that I might not be pregnant anymore. Is that OK? Normal?

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Rhonds · 27/08/2008 08:59

That's perfectly normal. I felt like that but I think it's because you are in the early stages so being pregnant has all the excitement and anticipation attached to it and you haven't really gotten past that to the baby stage yet.
Everything is normal whilst trying to have a baby, honestly!

NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain · 27/08/2008 09:00

You don't need maternity, just the A&E hospital (I was scanned in the Gynae ward with the bleed I had at 7 weeks)

I had clots with that bleed and all was absolutely fine.

Don't think about it 'going the other' way yet, TBH when I MC'ed the physical side was nothing compared to the mental side.

And yes, we've said before how it is very strange that although you know the pregnancy leads to the baby, the baby doesn't seem to form in a 'real' way until much later on, and in fact with both of my boys not until they were born. There is no normal way of feeling anything at the moment.

Seriously, get up, get dressed, and go to A&E, take your phone so we can chat and keep your mind busy, or take a book or a magazine, anything to help pass the time, but go and fight for your right to be seen.

LynetteScavo · 27/08/2008 09:11

If you do go to A&E, be prepared for a VERY LONG WAIT. I would take a picnic.

Wishing lots of luck - bleeding doesn't always mean miscarriage!

calsworld · 27/08/2008 09:19

I chickened out of the fighting route and phoned the midwife team. I've spoken to a really lovely MW (how do people manage to sound so huggable on the phone?) and she's going to speak to the EPU and see if she can get me in any quicker.

I think the pain that I've had before going to the loo may have raised an eyebrow.

She also asked if I was work and I said that I'd phoned in sick, she said they recommend not going to work for 48 hrs after bleeding stops....I feel quite happy to go with this.

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NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain · 27/08/2008 09:25

Fingers crossed she can do something for you. Well done for doing it, it can all be so overwelming.

I am going to go and finally get in the shower, I will have my phone with me all day, so just text/ring whenever you want OK? And obviously let me know how you get on. Will be thinking of you xxx

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