Miscarriage of one twin

[daisy99divine]

I hope that you can help, oh wise mnetters. My dear friend has, on her 5 IVF cycle, conceived twins. At 6 weeks both had a heartbeat. A 10 weeks the scan could only find 1 HB. She is back in hospital this week (12 weeks) for further, definitive scan. Can you help her as to what to expect? As you can imagine she is devastated, fearful and terrified for outcome of 2nd twin which is ok so far (This truly is my friend not me. She is too scared to ask questions for fear of answers, so I promised to ask for her and "filter") Thanks x

[daisy99divine]

Just wondering if anyone can help with advice on misscarriage of 1 twin?

[MarsLady]

I'm sorry, I have no answers for you but wanted to pass on my sympathy for your friend. I pray that the second twin hangs on in there.

[MamaGLovesMe]

I miscarried one of my twins. 3 years now and I still feel really

[daisy99divine]

MamaG I am so sorry about that. If you don't mind my asking, how many weeks were you? It must have been so awful for the rest of the pregnancy - hanging on with the other one? I am so sorry for your loss

[hertsnessex]

my ds2 was a twin - saw one heartbeat early on - then nothing at the 12wk scan. i was sad - but i was still preg - and very happy about that. chances are the 2nd baby has been 're-absorbed' as it was so early on.

hope she is ok.

cx

[MamaGLovesMe]

About 7.

I can't believe I feel so and teary after all this time.

It effected my baby too but he is fine now.

[PortBlacksandResident]

This happened with my Dad - my Grandma was about 12 wks and thought she had miscarried altogether (but he hung on).

Bearing in mind he is now 60!

Big best wishes to your friend.

[shrinkingsagpuss]

I think thaht with IVF, that whilst it is terribly sad for your friend, that because they are completely seprate emrbryos - not like "natural" twins, there is a better chance for the 2nd twin. Please don't take this as gospel, I'm hoping someone with more knowledge can advise better, but with my understanding of medicine, this is what i think.

[minster]

I'm so sorry for your friend's loss.

I had a twin pregnancy from IVF - I'd lost one by 7 weeks & went on to lose the other at 14 due to placental problems not related to the loss of the first twin.

Assuming that they transferred two & both embryos implanted, the lost twin should be absorbed as the other one grows & it shouldn't have an adverse effect on the pregnancy. Identical twinning is more common after some IVF procedures (blastocyst transfer, assisted hatching, ICSI) than in spontaneous pregnancies so there is a chance they share a sac which is more complicated (but less likely IYKWIM).

I don't think of my IVF babies as 'unnatural' BTW

[shrinkingsagpuss]

oh, no I'm sorry, I didn't mean it like that! I meant in terms of spontaneously occuring - i.e -identical twins, which, as you say, share an embryonic sac. I didn't mean to cause any offence, please don't take it that way.

[shrinkingsagpuss]

and yes.. I know spontaneously occuring twins can be fraternal as well, which is more likely.

[daisy99divine]

Poor MamaG what a horrible thing to happen to you. How was your son affected, was it during the pregnancy? So glad your DS is find now although it doesn't make your loss easier to bear I think it's quite natural to still feel sad about the loss of a life, even at 7 weeks and even many years later IFYWIM

And Minster, thank you for your info - my heart goes out to you losing both babies, that is tough tough tough

My friend has two sacs - two eggs put back as Day 3 embryos, not blastocycsts, so hopefully the second one can go on to thrive

thanks for sharing x

[MamaGLovesMe]

My pg was hard at times as we had problems and the delivery was traumatic, but he had problems after that which luckily he was treated for, though we had taken him for something else.

I always knew I would conceive twins, just thought they would both come home.

Feels like everyone is having them and I have to hide threads where people seem to be almost complaining about having them. I know it is my problem though.

[IVFMommy]

Ladies, I need some support. My husband and I went to a great fertility clinic a little over a year ago. I was forced to have my ovaries removed when I was in high school due to football size cysts. Our only option was egg donation and IVF. It took right at a year to get through our first cycle, and we were ecstatic to find out it was twins. Everything was going great. The 11 week ultrasound showed 2 healthy babies. At week 12, they took me off all my fertility medications. We went back today for our week 13 ultrasound and could not locate a heartbeat on one baby. I am devastated. If anyone can offer any advice on how to deal with this situation, I'd appreciate it.

[mammie2]

I'm sorry to read bout all of your experiences I wish I knew the answers.

I think I may have lost a twin but am not sure, can u help?

I had an extremely heavy bleed on dec 27th which resulted in a white/clear jelly substance leaving my body. there was no pain until the next day, it lasted til after new year and was admitted to hospital, they found nothing. I had a kidney scan booked for Jan 23/24 can't rem which. anyway I then found out I was already pg with son during bleed. I now have a healthy one year old son.

Does anyone think I lost his twin?

[PeaMcLean]

Was about to respond to daisy but realised this was from July. I hope the rest of her friend's pregnancy is going as well as could be hoped.

I lost a twin at 31 weeks. His brother, DS, was born safely at 35 weeks. It was very very difficult because you fear so much for the safety of the surviving twin. But he had his own sac and own placenta, which makes things much easier, medically speaking. He was in the safest place until he was ready to come out. But it was hideously stressful for me.

7 years later DS is absolutely fab, in the way that only a 7 year old boy can be I'm still sad about the loss but it's ok. It's a grieving process like any other and it just takes time. Honest. Am happy to talk about that more if anyone wants.